Hates the Dress

I don't really think there's anything to do in this case. i mean if you're offering her to change up the dress to modify it to her liking and she doesn't want to do it then she just has to deal with not liking the dress and that's that.

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I'm afraid if she doesn't like it that she won't wear it. Unfortunately, that's the type of person that she is. It has always been her way or the highway and for once I would like something to be the way I want it. I know if I give in and change dresses just because she doesn't like it that she will expect me to continue to do so if she doesn't like other things. She already been complaining about the cost of the dresses as well. I had asked her price point before I started looking at dresses so the dress I picked is below that and she came back with "well I really thought you'd pick something much cheaper."

Remind her that the exact same dress still looks different on each individual’s body. So lessening the width of the “V” on her dress will be fine. Outside of altering the dress, her only other option is not to be in the wedding.

You've offered to help her and she refused so she can either go along with your suggestion or resign her duties as a bridesmaid. There's not much else you can do.

Instead of trying to come up with a solution, ask her what her solution would be. Perhaps she has one that you had not thought of. And if it comes from her, she will go along with it better. Have you considered that this isn't about the dress at all? Is she feeling sad? depressed? jealous? This may be about her expressing feelings about something else that she either does not know how to approach with your or that she does not have the self awareness to understand herself. Good luck!

What does she want to do? She doesn’t want to wear it, but she doesn’t want to wear something different...? 🤔 what’s her proposed solution?

At some point, you just have to put your foot down. Explain to her that this is your wedding and she doesn't get to be "my way or the highway" about this; it's up to you and you offered to be flexible and modify the dress to her liking, so she needs to accept it.

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She has been sending me links to other dresses so I think she wants me to pick a different dress for all of my bridesmaids to wear. I already compromised and picked a dress with straps because she complained because I really wanted them to wear a strapless dress.

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She's been sending me links to other dresses so her solution seems to be that I pick a completely different dress for everyone to wear. I've already compromised my vision by picking a dress with straps because she said she hates strapless dresses. I had envisioned my girls in strapless dresses.

View Quoted Comment I would tell her that is not an option and you aren't picking all new dresses for everyone. Honestly, I'd be like, "you've got 4 choices. 1. Alter the dress we've picked. 2. Choose a new dress for just you. 3. Wear the dress as is. 4. Come as a guest. I don't care which 1 you pick, but those of the options."

Does your sister have any legitimate reasons for not wanting to wear it, like having a large bust? I for one would never be able to get away wearing a V-neck style dress due to my large bust size. If this is the case, then I can understand where she's coming from not wanting to look different from the others wish shawl or modesty panel added. However, if she is simply being difficult because she doesn't like the style, then you should put your foot down. Also, which style of dress from Azazie did you have in mind? I'm confused as to why she commented on the cost, because Azazie is one of the most affordable options around