Has anyone told uninvited guests they're not welcome?

There’s no way we’d let them in... there would be no food for them, and probably no space either!

My FH’s friend will be by the door with a guest list, taking names as people come in. If someone not on the list shows up, they won’t be invited in. 🤷🏻‍♀️

They would have to get past our private security, venue security and our DOC. If they do that, I will still have one of these folks escort them out. I will not be dealing with it directly at all. We both have very spiteful ex-spouses so we are not playing even a little.

With the way my wedding is set up, I don’t think I would even notice. However, I don’t want the added stress on my wedding day by telling people to leave.

They will not have chair and possibly dinner. But it isn’t something I am even putting thought into. Plus, I don’t want to cause a sense or be rude to anyone either.

We have taken every precaution to make sure this doesn't happen - making sure every invitation was VERY specific on how many people in their party were invited, and WHO. "Joe Smith and guest" and on the RSVP card, "[2] seats have been reserved in your honor," followed by "___ of [2] guests will attend." We have also been telling everyone "if you don't RSVP you'd better show up with a chair and a sandwich, or at least wait until 8pm because you won't have a seat or a meal!" [jokingly, of course]

If someone uninvited or who didn't rsvp in time does show up, we don't think it will be an issue as long as it's not like...10 people. Our venue is prepared for a little bit of flexibility to a certain point. But if someone I PURPOSELY didn't invite tries to show up (like the cousins I don't talk to, the former coworkers who knew about the wedding but didn't get invited, etc.) my wedding party knows that they do NOT need to be let in! (And when the best man is a very large, strong man, it's like having private security ha!

If my Mother attempts to show up..I will be throwing her out myself. Other than her I don't think anyone I know would have the tenacity to try.

View Quoted Comment This is me exactly. There is no one I dont want there enough to cause a scene. Plus our caterer makes a certain percent over our count just in case. (More in case I do math wrong haha). But I totally get when people have certain people they 100% dont want there!

I will be having my DOC telling them to leave.

When I used to work in a fancy Inn that did events , now and them I would get stuck with the hostess job. Which included checking people against the RSVP list. Now and then someone would show up with extras, out of town guests or grown or young kids not invited, whom the hosts called, sometimes, to say they RSVP for too many. Other times, they would RSVP just the right number, then bring others. Tough to keep a civil tone and repeatedly say, this is a private party. You know that these extra people were not invited, and you will have to leave and take these people with you. Now and then we had to tell belligerent people we were calling the police , and luckily had a photographer there who could take their photo for the local paper, and police files. In only 2 events in 2 summers did we called local police. Who very quietly said, leave on your own, or leave in handcuffs and have your car towed to impound lot. Your choice. They quietly left. This is the kind of thing you only want to do if a guest is pulling a fast one. Much better to call people ahead of time, if they RSVP with too many, or if you hear from someone else they are bringing extras. But do not be manipulated. They are essentially taking a restaurant meal you did not pay for, and they are not paying for. It is blatantly wrong.