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Dana
Savvy June 2017

Has anyone not had dancing at their wedding?

Dana, on February 9, 2017 at 8:14 AM Posted in Planning 0 15

The thought of the dancing part of the wedding gives me anxiety jut thinking about it. I'm a very shy person but would it make the wedding less like a wedding if I didn't have it?

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Latest activity by AMW, on February 9, 2017 at 10:18 AM
  • MTMA9917
    VIP September 2017
    MTMA9917 ·
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    You may not like to dance, but I'm sure your guests do.

    I would still consider having music even if you don't dance.

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  • FutureMrs.DCT
    VIP March 2017
    FutureMrs.DCT ·
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    FH doesn't dance either, so we're not doing the "special" dances (first dance, daughter/father, mother/son, etc). We will have music and if people want to dance, they can dance. To me it would be very awkward not to allow dancing by others if they want to.

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  • MrsLaurenRenee
    Expert April 2017
    MrsLaurenRenee ·
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    Do you mean you don't want your guests to dance? Or you don't want to do spotlight dances (father-daughter, first dance, etc)?

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  • AlwaysMs.
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    AlwaysMs. ·
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    The only weddings I have been to without dancing were very intimate and we all went out to dinner afterwards. The reception is for your guests, so if they would enjoy and expect dancing then I think you have dancing. Would it help you to take some lessons? Would you prefer a really intimate wedding with just a dinner afterwards? Do you have anxiety about other things? If so, have to spoken to someone about medication and therapy that could help? Just trying to cover all the bases.

    Edit: PP are 100% right that you don't have to do any of the dances if you don't want to. So that's another good option.

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  • Del
    Master November 2017
    Del ·
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    We're not having dancing. We're having a restaurant reception, so we're going for more of a dinner party vibe.

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  • Kay v.1
    Expert April 2017
    Kay v.1 ·
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    We won't have dancing but this is mainly because we are aiming for a short 2 hour dinner party type reception. We'll skip all of the "first" dances as well for the same reasons. I actually love dancing and seeing everyone up and moving so I do fear not having it might make the reception feel a little less like a wedding but we'll all know why we are there so I can deal with that.

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  • Dana
    Savvy June 2017
    Dana ·
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    I just don't want to do the spotlight dance but didn't really know if that would seem weird.

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  • LC
    Expert June 2017
    LC ·
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    My friend had the same anxiety about dancing at her wedding. They had music, but it was mostly just background music. It was a very short reception. Just dinner, speeches and cake. Still beautiful but not a party atmosphere that a reception with a DJ or band and a dance floor will have.

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  • Kay v.1
    Expert April 2017
    Kay v.1 ·
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    I think it's perfectly fine to have no spotlight dances but allow the guests to do their thing on the dance floor. I'd just check with your future spouse and let them know your thoughts and concerns surrounding it.

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  • AlwaysMs.
    VIP May 2018
    AlwaysMs. ·
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    You can definitely skip the spotlight dances. Just have the DJ/MC announce the dancefloor is open and switch the music to dance music.

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  • Rachel Langerhans
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    I definitely recommend having music, even if you don't have a dance floor (but I'd still recommend having an area large enough for dancing, and a dance floor if other people like to dance). We didn't have a dance floor at our backyard wedding, but we had music and people still danced their hearts out!

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  • A. L.
    Master July 2017
    A. L. ·
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    Were not having dancing, but we are having music. We are having a piano/hired pianist, and many of our guests are composers who will probably try to take over the piano at some point. Our wedding is at a restaurant, though, without a dance floor, so it'll mostly be mingling like a very upscale dinner party.

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  • Shelley & Ken
    Dedicated May 2017
    Shelley & Ken ·
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    No dancing at reception. The venue is small and more of a dinner atmosphere in the church fellowship hall.

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  • Celia Milton
    Celia Milton ·
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    My little weddings in restaurants (and we do a lot of these) very often skip dancing, but you could absolutely have dancing for other people and skip it yourself. As a person who sees a lot of weddings, I can tell you that few people pay attention to the first dances.

    And when the thumping bass starts, I'm outta there.

    Music is always good. Have it.

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  • AMW
    Master September 2016
    AMW ·
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    We did a restaurant reception and definitely didn't have dancing, intentionally.

    The last wedding we attended had dancing but no alcohol. The only people who danced were the bride and groom, and everyone sat down bored and watched them. If you have dancing, be sure to splash a few drinks around the room first Smiley smile

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