Has anyone heard of/ doing this?

Well I guess it kinda like having a dollar dance.

Personally I don't like the idea but that just me. I don't think guest should have to bring any money to the reception unless they bring it as a gift in a card form.

I know some people do money dances which is a way you can collect money if you really wanted to. Personally I just think its tacky.

Also you definitely should not put it by the bartender unless that money will be going to them.

Don't do it, again just my opinion though.

I was going to suggest same thing virnell! Money dance is what id do..I definitely wouldnt pass around a hat.

Unfortunately, its a family tradition in FH's family. I honestly think its tacky, but they begged us to do it, so whatever. My feels are this; we are already getting presents, cards, ect from guests, so why take up an "offering". Its a wedding, not church.

Not to mention most people don't carry cash with them anymore.

I feel the same... I don't really like the dollar dance because I feel like people should be able to dance with me if they want, I think it's nice for them to ask. That and if I were going to a wedding I would usually leave my cash and ID and stuff in the vehicle since I didn't think I would need it. And I would be embarrassed to be asked to put money in and be empty handed. But my FFIL is so persistent on the idea, and I hate to say it as tacky as it is it does sound persuasive when he throws enough figures out that could pay off a honeymoon. I feel terrible for admitting that.

@Lynley O.- so are you gonna do it?

I've never heard of it where I'm from, and it does kind of seem like passing an offering plate at a church....the money dance is more known, although no one in my circle did one. I guess it depends on how comfortable you are with the idea....I kind of figured the guests put as much towards the gifts they bring, so I wouldn't want to seem like I was asking for more.

I've never heard of or seen that at the weddings I've gone too. Personally, I feel like it's tacky to pass a hat around specifically for the purpose of collecting money from guests at your wedding. Maybe at a college party, where you're expecting to regain some of the money you spent on beers? It's also slightly reminiscent of collecting tithing at church. It just seems out of place to me. The dollar dance is at least a sort of game, where you give the B or G some cash to dance with them. Also, with the dollar dance, if someone doesn't come dance and gift cash to you, it doesn't look as guilty to not play the game than not putting cash in a hat.

Sometimes they have pass around money at table...the dj will play music and whoever it stops at they are out and the last person remaining gets the centerpiece...and remaining money goes to bride and groom to help for honeymoon... (ive seen it done)..anyway ..gl

Maybe I can do the dollar dance and keep the hat on the table so if people choose they can choose and it isn't really on display while I'm dancing so you don't really have to pay to dance with me. That and my FFIL is really pushy, I mean seriously, and my family is pretty shy and proper, I don't know if he would know when to quit.

I've heard of a hat or boot to pass around, a dollar dance and a money tree. All are acceptable at weddings, but I feel like yall do, not really good about it. If one of the groomsman starts passing around a boot I'm not going to make a scene and have them stop it, but I won't be the one to ask them to.

Never heard of that, but I've seen the dollar dance...the family was really into it so it was cute, but I personally would never do something involving the guests giving FH and myself money. They spend the money for gifts, cards, outfits, gas, etc to attend the wedding so asking them to dig a bit further in their wallets would make me really uncomfortable :/ Regardless of what you choose to do, I hope it goes well

I've never heard of it, but it really depends on the family and circle of friends. Is that a tradition? Will the guests be suprised? In my case the guests would be mortified becasue its not common in my area.

I would never do anything at a wedding that involved or even alluded to asking for money- and if it were a tradition in my family it would stop here for sure. The idea of it is completely inappropriate... that of course is my opinion and not meant to offend anyone- just not something I would ever consider.

Thanks for all the advice ladies my FH and I were talking about it on the ride home and not only would I think it seem rude but I am just going to be happy that these people care enough to show up and even bring a card. I feel like if I do this I might as well put "give us cash" on the invitation. I am still not sure about the dollar dance though.

The only time I've heard of this was at my ex bf's mom's 2nd wedding, which was held in someone's backyard a couple years before I met him. The reason I hard about it (a lot) is because one of the cousin's brought a date who stole the jar of money (they had put a jar on the gift table, and people were happy to throw money in). However, the jar went missing, everyone got mad and started accusing people and it turned into a big mess that people talked about for years.

Guests love the dollar dance, though, they think of it as a moment with the bride or groom to wish them well, and of the cash as honeymoon cash, and they're happy to do it!

Not a fan of that idea.... But then I also hate the concept of a dollar dance too. Any part of trying to make money at a wedding makes me feel a little queasy.

I would not pass a hat around to collect money. If your FFIL is paying for the wedding then I can see you taking his opinion into consideration but if not then I wouldn't do it because I wouldn't feel comfortable with it. Also, if one of your bridal party start this I think I would make sure it ends real quick. I mean you have the dollar dance and/or money tree that I think is a little more appropriate. Like some of the others said your guest are already bringing you a gift and in my case we are having a cash bar so I would not do it at all not even a money tree or dollar dance in my case.

It's a hard call. I hadn't heard about it myself. Is it common in FH's family? Is it a cultural thing? Maybe they'll be expecting it, although how your family and friends will take it I don't know, if it comes down to a cultural thing, maybe the other guests will enjoy the novelty of it.