Has anyone been engaged for more than a year?

It’s literally nobody’s business but your own. If you and your fiancé are happy with that length of engagement, then that’s all that matters. You can’t please everyone, and again, it’s your life.. live it the way you choose. They get their own lives to conduct how they choose, without your opinions too. That’s the beauty of it all.

I was engaged for 26 months by the time we said “I Do”. I am a huge proponent of long engagements: you have longer to save up, you can lock in cheaper prices, you get the venue/vendors you really want. Don’t worry about other peoples’ opinions. I hope you can find your joy again! I know I personally loved planning my wedding and loved that I wasn’t stressed because of time constraints.

When we originally got engaged, we planned a two-year engagement (now, thanks to Covid, we will have a 4 year engagement!) I think 2 years is the perfect length of time to plan a wedding - it allows ample time to tour venues and research vendors to make sure you aren’t rushed into choosing something/someone that isn’t your first choice. It also prevents you being forced to choose venues/vendors that aren’t what you truly want because they are already booked up because of Covid reschedules (a lot of them are booking up 1-2 years out!) And having that extra time to save money is great! Having 2 years to plan made the entire planning process so much less stressful and more fun for me!

So many couples now are having engagements at least a year or longer. We will be engaged for about 19 months by the time we get married. Everyone I have told that’s not close friends or family always reacts with a face and says “why wait so long?” It’s literally no one’s business but your own. Long engagements are great for saving money and taking the time to do what you want. Just ignore the negative energy. I know that’s easier said than done but you do not need that.
Also, congratulations on setting your date!

My fiance and I were originally planning a one year engagement, though thanks to COVID, we now have a three year engagement! I actually appreciate having the extra time - looking back, a year felt very quick when it came planning. I think 2 years is the perfect amount of time to plan a wedding! It gives you enough time to figure everything out so you're not rushed, but isn't too much time to where it's so far away. Plus, it gives you time to save up. Everyone has opinions, but when it comes to your wedding, their opinions don't matter when it comes to your engagement length, venue, dress choice, color scheme, budget, etc. The only opinions that matter on those aspects are yours and your fiance's. Congratulations on setting your wedding date! Happy wedding planning!

Our engagement is 2 years and 5 days lol. We were originally a bit bummed that because of covid booking up everything this year we couldn't have a 1 year engagement, but now I can't imagine how we would've done everything in only one year. Like others said, as long as it's what you and your SO want then that's all that matters!

I'm also in NY and I got engaged in September 2019. We were originally going to have a spring 2021 wedding and decided to postpone another year. I've been procrastinating on certain tasks because it feels like I'll have forever. But I'm glad that we're finally in the home stretch. Don't listen to what anyone else says. A two-year engagement for financial reasons is totally reasonable (and because it's so hard to get a date in the pandemic).

Pffffttt ....... go tell them to mind their own business. Seriously, they have nothing better to do than be negative towards your happiness? I got engaged Christmas, 2019 ---- wedding is May 2023. No COVID related delays. My FH couldn't wait to ask me, even though he knew we would have to wait until after April 2023 to be official ..... I want my rat ex to have to pay every last penny of alimony!! I just ignored everyone who questioned the time line, and am enjoying all the planning and fun.

Just ignore them. 2 years is very normal.

Ignore them. Why would you call it off for them? Just remember it's your life and you're in control and get to make decisions for your life and what works best for you as a couple. Usually people are engaged for at least a year. Venues are booked fast and people need time to save and plan. Our engagement will be just shy of two years. My fiance has work goals he wants to accomplish and I have a very busy year next year so 2023 is what works for us.

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I agree its financially better for us as we're also trying to buy a home.

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I agree thank you.

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Defiantly will do thanks.

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😂 😂 thats really funny

We got engaged May 1, 2019 and got married July 31, 2021. We weren't planning on having a long engagement, but CoVID threw a wrench in our plans.

My boyfriend and I are graduating likely in 2024, so we will either get married then or 2 years after that during graduate studies.


We are steadily working towards are education goals & we don’t feel ready marrying until after we at least finish undergrad. So there’s all that!
I totally get what you’re saying about wanting to be more financially set for the house you want and living in an expensive state (I’m in California 😂🤷🏻‍♀️).
With that said: do what goes with you and your partner’s plan, and not other people’s expectations. As long as you and your partner communicate about life’s circumstances, changes, and anything else you need to adjust for your future - a long engagement is perfect okay.

View Quoted Comment This! See? There are positives to long engagements because there’s a lot up in the air with vendors at times - especially now with COVID.


Wedding planning is stressful on top of normal life obligations, so it’s nice to hear long-term planning can be less stressful! Thanks Cece !

People are always giving their opinions. I got engaged in August 2021 and planning our wedding for June 2024. I’m always getting that we should elope.

I had a two year engagement and I absolutely loved it! I got to enjoy being engaged and soak it all in. I was able to plan my wedding with hardly any stress. When it came to my wedding everything was done and it was great! I don’t see anything negative about it. Plus with Covid cases changing all the time you have a better chance with anything changing for ur wedding. It’s your wedding do What you think is best!

My wedding date is set for Oct 2024. We dated for 2 years and we are waiting another 2 years to get married. I have gotten a lot of feed back and crazy looks when I told others my wedding date as well but we are saving and moving. We are even paying off some debt. Don't listen to negative people or even provide them an explanation. At the end of the day, you gotta do what's best for you . Congrats btw..