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shantell
Beginner April 2018

Happily Ever Harris---- stop stressing

shantell, on January 19, 2018 at 11:40 AM Posted in Community Conversations 0 8
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So there's 77 days until me & my best friend says I do. I've laughed, cried, and even have had mini panic attacks and it took me up until now to realize its all for nothing. Are you that bride that wants everything perfect? I was too. Down to the very last detail, but the truth is things are going to go wrong. Someone will piss you off and you're going to want to go full on BRIDEZILLA. Trust me its not worth it. My bridal party is so unorganized and some have yet to even get fitted for their dresses. I've even gave them chance to opt out of the responsibility. I have really bad anxiety so you can imagine how much that bothered me. My brother passed away unexpectedly May 2,2017 and that was another thing I had to deal with on top of having a family, working, and planning a wedding. My sisters reminded me that this is not about the show, its about the love. So I say all of that to say this, Ladies this is a beautiful moment in your lives, you could be wearing a trash bag and he'd still think you look beyond beautiful. Don't stress the small stuff, embrace every challenge and just have fun. I don't care if I have any bridesmaids or groomsmen. As long as that handsome man, and our children are at the end of the aisle waiting for me, I dont care about anything else. Hope this helps

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Latest activity by shantell, on January 19, 2018 at 12:38 PM
  • Kaye
    VIP October 2018
    Kaye ·
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    Yup! The important thing is your sweetheart and getting married. I don't quite have your zen as I am a bit bogged down with the details of hiring an officiant, dj, guitarist and caterer.

    I worry if I am making a good decision. Or if I am being misled by good reviews. How can everyone have a 4.9-5.0 rating?? But in the end I know it won't matter at all.
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  • shantell
    Beginner April 2018
    shantell ·
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    I've been extremely blessed this go around. We've been engaged since 2013 but every tie I started to plan something went wrong and I gave up. This time everything was handed to me. My officiant is my aunt, dj is my cousin's cousin, My caterer is my friend who is a chef. I even have a same day wedding planner who is amazing. There's no way we could stop planning this time lol. take your time, don't get frustrated and SHOP around. my budget was 4000, i am currently at 3000. Oh the key to my calmness is an extreme amount of wine lol

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  • LB
    Champion November 2016
    LB ·
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    Well I guess it's easy to stop stressing about things when "everything is handed to you".

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  • shantell
    Beginner April 2018
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    Not understand the point of your shade but ok, how's that negativity working for you? Have fun with that. And when I say handed to me I meant services were offered at reasonable prices. I have to pay for everything still. Nothing in this world is free, obviously

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  • LB
    Champion November 2016
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    No shade, just pointing out that your experience of having "everything handed to you" is much different than a lot of people and therefore being able to just "stop stressing" might not be feasible.

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  • Happy Hedgie
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    Not to burst your bubble, but, I hope you have contracts with all of these friendors. I have heard one too many horror stories to people's friends backing out last minute, not showing up or not doing the job they were "hired" to do. It sounds like you've had a hard time planning in the past and it would be a shame for something to go wrong now.

    @OP I love your attitude. FH and I are very laidback through this whole process. We have the attitude that the Wedding is one day and our marriage is forever so there is no point in stressing over what is a blip in the grand scheme of things.

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  • shantell
    Beginner April 2018
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    Yes I made contracts for everything. I made them through a website called Rocket Lawyer, emailed it to them to look over , printed them and we both have signed copies. Every time I start over doing something I just have to remember we still have to live after so I'm trying to keep it elegant and simple

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  • shantell
    Beginner April 2018
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    I understand and can respect that. This is not the first time we tried to plan this. The first 3 times I was doing too much and got frustrated so I stopped. I felt myself slipping back into that but I stopped. Not because ppl offered their services, More because its not worth it. There's a lot of things that I didn't get the best prices on but instead of settling, I searched for better deals. For instance, My original wedding dress was 741.00 plus tax from david's bridal. I went back and switched it to a cheaper dress that was 521.00. I did not want to spend that much for one dress so I went on amazon (My BFF for this wedding) and found a wedding dress for $168.00 & a reception dress for $20. If I cant afford something I wont get it. Im not spending a bunch of money on flowers so instead of that I think of an alterative. My whole point is, life is too short to stress, So don't.. that goes for weddings, work, bills, etc

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