Handing out invites at shower?

I don’t think it’s tacky but people might throw them in their purses or set them down somewhere and forget about them.

View Quoted Comment I would give it to them as they leave.

I don't think that is tacky!

I am all about saving money with the wedding planning and handed the invitations out to some family members and close friends. None of them minded...I had so many people tell me to just give them their invites so I could save on postage.

I don't think it's tacky, but I agree that it gives you the bigger risk of people losing them, misplacing them, or just not really thinking about it. Some may think "oh, cool." Put it in their purse as they leave (or throw it in the car), forget about it, and then wonder down the road why they didn't get an invitation in the mail. If you do decide to hand them out this way, I would just say to be prepared to do a little more follow up than you think necessary But it definitely will cut down on cost - and every bit helps, right?!

I don't think its tacky. However, I would do it at the end. Only problem you may run in is if everyone that attends your shower that is not invited to the wedding it could be awkward for them,

I don't think it's tacky at all. we handed out invites to people at our church rather than mailing them because it is more personal that way and it was convenient rather than mailing it if we are going to be seeing them anyhow

I guess I am alone on this one... but I personally think it is tacky . A wedding invitation should be mailed. It is a formal invitation to a formal event... handing it out at a shower is not formal.

I don't think its tacky. They're already there to celebrate you and your upcoming marriage.

View Quoted Comment I would never invite someone to the shower if they're not going to the wedding

View Quoted Comment Meh both sides of our family are not very formal

View Quoted Comment Yes those was my thoughts as well until I had people who were not invited to the wedding show up to my shower and now are trying to invite them selves to our wedding. I always told my matron of honor is they’re aren’t invited to the wedding it’s weird to have them at the shower but it’s happened.

I don't think it's tacky, but I probably won't be doing it. I like getting pretty happy mail and know some of my guests will too.

I don't think it's tacky but I personally wouldn't have done it. Even if it's given at the end of the shower it's still going to end up in a purse or car. There is definitely a risk of them being misplaced or forgotten. Additionally, I'm sure not everyone will leave the shower at the same time. Do you plan on stopping what you are doing to make sure to find the correct invitation and make sure to give it to the person? It just seems like it wouldn't be worth the small savings of money on shipping to have to be on high alert when a guest leaves to make sure you get them the invitation. Especially when I'm sure not everyone will be at the shower so you will have to mail something out.

Maybe I'm silly or old fashion but there is something nice and special about receiving an invitation in the mail.

View Quoted Comment Not all weddings are formal events. Many are casual in style and dress, guests not in black tie or white tie, wedding party in colored tuxes or jeans. Food service is often a clue, buffet, barbecue, food truck, all signs it is not by definition a formal wedding. For an informal or formal event, however, personal delivery has always been considered a good thing, as long as everyone present is invited. At a shower where everyone is,invited to the wedding, that should not be a problem.

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I understand that not all weddings are considered formal. I still thinking handing someone an invitation is tacky. Whether you are serving BBQ and wearing jeans or you are serving filet and wearing a tux.

I also like getting good mail, and tend to remember things mailed to me. Thus, more likely to RSVP as soon as possible.