Handfasting vs traditional

Have you talked to your FH about what his family wants and what elements you want to include? I would talk to him first, then talk to his family together. Something as personal as the ceremony should represent the couple, not familial requests. We’ll be doing a handfast because it’s a common Scottish (Celtic really) tradition so it’s “traditional” to us. We aren’t having a religious ceremony though.

Pp said it well. I agree that it should represent the couple not the parents. Also yes I have seen lots of handfasting at traditional Christian ceremonies bc it is a Celtic tradition.

This isn’t your in law’s wedding. Have the wedding that the two of you want.

This is your wedding not your in laws. Do what you are comfortable with

I get respecting your future in-laws wishes, but it is more important to respect your future hubby and his wishes, if they don’t understand that then it seems they don’t understand why you’ll be getting married 🤷🏼‍♀️ Marriage is love and respect between two people, not one person and the in-laws

It's you and your FHs wedding, not your or his parents. Do what you two want and will make you happy. My FH and I are doing a handfasting ceremony, are having 2 readings, and writing our own vows. We are not religious at all and there will be no mention of God in our ceremony at all. We found an officiant that understood what we wanted and is working with us to create an amazing ceremony. Do what will make you both happy.

Hey fellow pagan! We’re doing a handfasting and my future in-laws are catholic and will be properly horrified when they see our ceremony. But it’s our wedding not theirs, your memories not theirs. So I would politely tell them you will be having a ceremony that means the most to you both. Good luck 🥳🥳🥳

FH and I want to do a handfasting ceremony (we aren't traditional or pagan but like this ceremony option-tell me if that is rude!?)

We had a Christian ceremony and did a handfasting incorporated in our ceremony.

My husband and I did a handfasting ceremony (neither of us are religious) and it turned out beautiful! Everyone loved it and our officiant briefly described it before doing the handfasting. I saw do whatever you and your FH want to do, we also wrote our own vows.

My FH and I are very much "I do what I want" types so what works for us does not always translate well for others. If we had agreed to a pagan ceremony and his family said no we would do a pagan ceremony and his family would have to deal. We are paying for our entire wedding ourselves so that helps too. Honestly, just talk to FH about what the family said and decide from there if you want to compromise. If the family won't compromise that sounds like they need to re-evalute this whole Christian thing cause they aren't sounding very Christ-like.

I am Baptist, pastor's daughter, and my fiance is Catholic and we are doing a handfasting in place of the unity candle ceremony at our VERY traditional ceremony because FH is Scotch Irish ☺️