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Emily
Savvy May 2019

Hall Pass List---warning tmi

Emily, on February 14, 2018 at 11:01 AM

Posted in Family and Relationships 27

So has anyone played the "Hall Pass List" game with your significant other. Its where you each get to pick 5 names of celebrities you are allowed to sleep with if you ever got the opportunity...which never happens. Well I did with my FH the other night and am very concerned and upset. First off we...

So has anyone played the "Hall Pass List" game with your significant other. Its where you each get to pick 5 names of celebrities you are allowed to sleep with if you ever got the opportunity...which never happens. Well I did with my FH the other night and am very concerned and upset. First off we have been together for almost 8 yrs and just got engaged 2 months ago. I don't remember how the topic came up but it did when we were enjoying dinner and drinks at a local bar. I had my list in 10 mins. He took ALOT longer. He tried to change the subject numerous times and stated all the names he can think of were porn star names. That's concerning and upsetting. How do you know that many porn star names...how much porn do you watch??? How can you not have any actual female actress names. He also was putting waaaay too much thought into it...like is this list set in stone, can I change it from yr to yr, I have to consider what they look like now (if they let themselves go (go fat). I was getting very annoyed and upset that he was carrying on like that and kept saying he can only think of porn stars. After over 1 1/2 hours he finally gave me 5 names....2 actresses and 3 porn star names. Is this normal for guys to know more porn star names than actual actresses? Am I being ridiculous for being upset or concerned?

Need to mention he has started watching the Playboy channel more since we got engaged and has been recording shows/movies on our DVR...claims he recorded it for us to watch. I have no interest in watching porn unless I have been drinking and I am at that flirty horny drunk stage...which is not that often.

Whats your thoughts????

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  • K
    Devoted April 2018
    Kelly ·
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    Please talk to him. How long have you all lived together?

    i would give him all these specific examples and then try to find a way to explain to him that you’re uncomfortable with it and why. I’m also wondering why he watches it...
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  • Emily
    Savvy May 2019
    Emily ·
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    @ Kelly - We have pretty much lived together since a few months after we started dating...so at least 7 yrs. I guess the activity is more noticeable too recently (full disclosure we have a video camera type device set up to see what the dogs are doing during the day. Came home to a lot of stuff chewed up. It didn't work consistently for the longest but now has. I have it set up on my phone and that is how I know what he is doing when I am in bed...not trying to spy...but I guess I am if he doesn't know that is working and I can see)

    I also wonder why he watches it so much too when we are having reg intimacy...not everyday...sorry cant do that...I am 38 yrs old and just don't feel the desire everyday. I know guys could want it everyday.

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  • K
    Devoted April 2018
    Kelly ·
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    Please don’t let anyone invalidate your feelings. This is definitely an interesting dynamic and it sounds like it’s not that his answers were bad per se but that his answers are a reflection of what appears to be excessive porn watching. I think the really the only thing you can do is talk to him. I would feel a little off too if my fiancé’s main hobby seem to be watching porn.
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  • melanie
    Master August 2017
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    Thank you Gretchen I was wondering why no one else noticed this!!!

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  • Emily
    Savvy May 2019
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    Thank you kelly

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