What did everyone do about their bridesmaids getting their hair done? Do I need to find a beautician and pay to have all my girls hair done or do I need to just let them go to whoever they want and pay for it themselves and give them a picture of the hairstyle I want them to get.
If you give them a picture of how to get their hair done (requiring them to get it done), you have to pay for it & set it up. If you give them the option, I'd still hire someone to do it and have them pay if they are interested.
You’re paying if you tell them how to style their hair.
I asked them early on if they would prefer to go to their own hair stylist, but none of them really had a preference (besides my mom). My hair stylist will be on-site doing my hair, all of my bridesmaids, and possibly my FMIL. My girls are all wearing their hair up (in different styles -- just all up), which was their preference anyway. I am not paying for their hair, which is standard in my area. They will also all be getting professional makeup done.
It's honestly up to the bride! Some brides pay for everything or most things for their girls and Some ask their girls to pay on things Such as, hair makeup and dress. I am making my gals pay. As generous as I want to be....I still have a budget and they get that 100% I was just up front with them on everything and let them know their duties as my bridal team.
Mrs. S ·
I offered to pay for hair and makeup but some of my girls really want to do their own. I don’t care if it’s a certain way I just want everyone to be comfortable and feel beautiful.
If you are giving them a picture of the hairstyle you want them to have, then you should set it up and pay for it. I would recommend that you don't make them wear a certain hairstyle, though, because the same hairstyle doesn't work for every girl.
Like everyone seems to echo, "your say = you pay." If you're really particular about how they should do their hair, the general rule is you pick up the tab. If you just want to open it up for them to do if they want to, then they cover their costs. For our wedding, we used the salon a block away from our hotel. All of us (maids, moms, myself) except for two of the bridesmaids chose to use the salon and they covered their own cost (except I covered my mother in law - it was our treat for her). That being said, not one of us had our hair done the same way
If you need them to get their hair done a specific way, you should pay. Not everyone can afford to get their hair and/or makeup professionally done for a wedding after paying for a dress, accessories, travel, etc! And everyone may not like one particular hair style. I paid for all my girls to have their hair professionally done, because I felt it would look best in our photos, and I let them all pick their own style. I gave everyone the option of paying to have their makeup done, because I didn’t require them to have it done. I found the HMUA I used, and let the girls and my mom know the pricing for makeup so they could decide. The HMUA came to us at our hotel to get ready, and I paid the tip for all services.
If you want them to have their hair done a certain way, you find the stylist and pay for it.
I texted all my girls individually and said “I’m going here to get my hair and makeup done it’s $40 for makeup and updos start at $40. Let me know if you want to come with me, or if you want to do your own/ have someone else do it for you that’s totally fine too. You’re more than welcome to come hang out at the salon though!” All 3 of them plus the 3 moms all said they want to come to the salon.
I found a reasonably priced hairstylist and told the girls if they wanted their hair done she would be coming to the hotel the morning of the wedding. They all opted to get their hair done and they paid for it themselves. They got whatever hairstyle they wanted.
I'm letting my bridesmaids choose their own hairstyles so I'm going to allow them to choose their own hairstylist in case they have someone specific they would like to go to. Same with makeup, they can go with whomever will be doing mine or go with their own.
Definitely pay for them if you want a certain look for them. We arent requiring a certain look or even to use our HMUA (in fact FSIL wants to do her own hair bc its short) but it's a nice treat for them. We're paying for it so it was offered to them.
If someone told me I needed to style my hair a certain way (which might not work with my features), and that I also needed to pay for it myself, I wouldn't be happy. My $.02 is that you should let your bridesmaids style their hair however they choose, but if you are insistent on a particular do, you really need to foot that bill.
Since I have 9 ladies in my bridal party we decided not to pay for their hair and makeup because the price would be outrageous. With that being said, I didn't tell them to get their hair or makeup done a certain way because then it would be up to me to pay for it. If your budget simply cannot allow you to pay for their hair, then I wouldn't tell them they need to have it done a certain way. If you are paying for it, I'd hire a stylist to do their hair how you want it done.