Hair!?

If you are requiring they get their hair professionally done, it is customary to pay. If you are providing access but they can choose whether or not to use it, then they typically pay.

If you want their hair done by the stylist, then you need to pay for it. Else be okay with them doing their own hair.

If you are making it a requirement that they have their hair professionally done, then you should pay for it. If it is optional then they are responsible for the cost. For my wedding, I hired a hair and makeup artist. It was 100% their choice if they wanted either service so if they elected to have one, both or neither then they paid for it.

My mom and I have to go to my hair dressers house before the wedding, I think all of us girls will already be together the night before so they will come with. I will give them the option of them doing their own hair because I don’t care how they style it, or they will know that the hair dresser is an option as well if they don’t want to their hair.

Agree with PP's. If you're requiring that they have their hair done professionally, you should pay. If you're providing it as an option, they should pay if they'd like it done.

Thank you everyone for your feedback

PP's are right. I am making hair and makeup optional but covering the cost if they want it (everyone said they want it, but don't know that I am paying for it). That's definitely not standard but it was something I wanted to do for my ladies. Luckily, I have a small party.

I have paid for my own hair and makeup in every wedding I have been in, even if it was required. Also, $60 is fairly cheap!

Absolutely. Especially since it's only $60. It sounds like you're getting a good deal for them. If you're comfortable and you can cover that cost by all means you can, but it is ok to ask them to do so.

If you are requiring that they do it, I would offer at least paying half. For my bridesmaids it is $160 for hair and makeup but that is optional for them. I would pay for them, but I can't afford $160x4. They have to decide and let me know as I can't add anyone on last minute, but I am still giving them the option. Good luck!

I agree with PP. If you request she gets it done then you should pay.

If you make it optional, then no it's perfectly fine to ask them if they want to pay for it.

I gave my ladies the option. I gave them my hair stylists' pricing, and they can decide if they want to pay that, or do their own hair. Doesn't matter to me. If I had the budget to pay for them all, I would. Not because I want them to all look the same, but because I want them all to feel pampered by having their hair done by a pro!!

I wish I could afford to pay for everyone's. But I have a total of 5 bridesmaids and 1 jr bridesmaid. I will be giving them the option. Thank you everyone!!

Actually, I disagree. Many people join the wedding party knowing that the costs include travel (if necessary), dress, makeup and hair. I’ve always had to pay for each and everything alone and that wasn’t a problem because I agreed. My BMs are well aware of this and are totally accepting of it. So, no, you are not required to pay $60 at all. Many would get their hair done professionally and clearly pay if you gave them the option to do it alone. So, $60 for hair, not a problem.

As others have said, I think it is something you should pay for if you are requiring it of them, but if using your hairstylists service is optional, then it would be okay to have them chip in. Personally, I think brides should have conversations with potential bridesmaids about expectations before they make a commitment to being in your wedding. If you haven't already outlined that you are expecting them to pay for their own hair/makeup day of, then it would be inappropriate to spring that on them after they've already invested some time and money into your big day. Most bridesmaids expect to pay for a dress, maybe shoes and some costume jewelry, and chip in for a party of some sort (whether a shower or bachelorette) but I don't think its customary to expect much more than that, although all of this is cultural so it depends on where you live, your socioeconomic status, and what is "normal" for you and your bridesmaids. I normally do my own hair and makeup for events, so me paying for my hair to be styled is a big deal, but if all of your maids are the type that have their hair professionally styled for events regularly, then they may not bat an eye at having to pay for it for your wedding.

I made hair and makeup optional (they could get one or the other or both). The salon required a 50% down payment at booking, so I paid and made that part of their gift.