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Just Said Yes October 2021

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Samantha, on June 15, 2021 at 5:57 PM Posted in Hair and Makeup 0 20
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My mother in law wants to buy and put jewels in her hair for the wedding. After thinking about it, I feel like she’s trying to be the start of the wedding. I feel like I should be the only one with something in my hair. How do I politely ask her to not wear them? Let’s just say she takes everything the wrong way regardless and is very dramatic about anything and everything

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Latest activity by I_Do_Too, on July 1, 2021 at 10:31 PM
  • Cool
    Super July 2020
    Cool ·
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    Lol I’m sorry but your MIL will not steal your spotlight by wearing a hairpiece. Let this one go, sounds like you’re going to have bigger battles to fight down the road.
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  • Michelle
    Rockstar October 2022
    Michelle ·
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    Do your best to ignore her. Guests will see what she is up to and not give her the attention she wants

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  • Grace
    Super February 2022
    Grace ·
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    Will anyone else notice I'd she wears them (aside from you) and is it worth the fight to tell her not to?



    If you think it is worth it, I would enlist your future spouse to help you navigate how is best to approach that conversation. Your spouse and your other inlaws knows your MIL best. Maybe one of them has had this issue with her before and can advise what either worked or didn't work before.
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  • Samantha
    Rockstar October 2022
    Samantha ·
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    She won’t outshine you, really.
    Consider it a time you can be gracious and just let it go. It’s a win - win. If she’s just excited and wants to dress up, she won’t have any hurt feelings. If she’s trying to get a rise out of you, by ignoring it, she has no fuel to start anything.
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  • Kk
    Devoted October 2021
    Kk ·
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    Pick your battles. No one is going to notice what hairpiece she ha.
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  • L
    Lisa ·
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    Is this for real? Are you truly concerned about another woman with plastic gems in her hair stealing your spotlight?
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  • Kimistar
    Dedicated March 2021
    Kimistar ·
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    What kind of hairpiece would this be? If it’s just a jeweled barrette or hair clip, I don’t think anyone will notice or care. People accessorize with a little bling in their hair all the time. I would let it go and focus on the other stuff. If this hairpiece is more of a tiara or crown, then maybe have your fiancé help you speak with her about it.
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  • A
    Super December 2020
    Anais ·
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    Do you know what piece she wants to wear?
    Unless she’s wearing a massive crown it’s not going to be noticeable nor should it steal your spotlight. This doesn’t feel like it’s worth fighting about tbh
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  • Ava
    VIP May 2022
    Ava ·
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    I have to echo the opinion of everyone else- let it go. It’s just a hair accessory. It is unlikely anyone will even take notice of it, let alone have it outshine the bride. This is definitely not worth starting an issue with FMIL over. If you start issues over tiny things like this, you will likely be seen as overly dramatic to FH’s family, and any real concerns you bring up in the future may get brushed aside as you just “being dramatic” again.
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  • CountryBride
    VIP April 2022
    CountryBride ·
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    Let this go don’t give her the time of day she won’t outshine you
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  • Michelle
    Rockstar April 2021
    Michelle ·
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    I agree- let this one go. There’s absolutely no way she’s going to take the spotlight!
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  • Janet
    Dedicated October 2018
    Janet ·
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    I agree with others. I’d let it go. There may be other guests who will wear them as well, and I doubt you’d walk up to them and ask them to be removed.
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  • Piper
    Dedicated April 2022
    Piper ·
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    The only requirement about guest attire & acessories is the fact that a femal guest shouldn't wear a white or off-whitte dress, skirt+top or shirt or pantsuit.
    Plus: everyone will know you are the bride and she is not. Nobody will upstage you on your big day , even with a fancier dress than yours.
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  • L
    Lady ·
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    You dont' get any say in what your MIL wears. Just let it go.

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  • Hannah
    Master July 2019
    Hannah ·
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    I bought blingy (but tasteful) hair pieces for my mom and MIL for my wedding 🤷‍♀️. They're not going to outshine the bride. If it makes her feel prettier, I would let this go. She wants to look her best for her son's wedding. If she's hoping to wear a tiara, yeah...that's a bit much. But a jeweled hair comb is pretty common for MOB and MOG.
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  • SHY
    Master January 2022
    SHY ·
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    I would just leave it. Trust me when I say this, unless she's showing up in a wedding dress too, no one will steal your spotlight lol. Pick your battles, and this isn't one of them.

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  • Mcskipper
    Master July 2018
    Mcskipper ·
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    Don’t. She’s your MIL, let her be. You don’t get to dress your guests, so any attempt to will cause unnecessary drama, when really, her hair will not matter even a teeny tiny bit. It won’t impact your day at all, so it is something to just let go. She sounds like a person you have to pick your battles with, and this one just isn’t worth it.
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  • Jenn
    Dedicated May 2021
    Jenn ·
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    My MIL literally wore a crown for our wedding. Everybody still only looked at the me and the hubs 😂 so no matter how much she bedazzles her hair, you'll still be the star❤
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  • Kari
    Master May 2020
    Kari ·
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    I agree that letting it go is probably best.

    We had a female guest wear a white dress to our wedding. No one cared.

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  • I_Do_Too
    Devoted September 2020
    I_Do_Too ·
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    As long as its not a veil, I think you’re good!
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