Had to postpone wedding again... feeling sad

I am sorry you had to postpone OP, it isn’t something anyone should have to do (unless for a good reason, like a baby!). I am in the same boat – we were meant to marry this December and we just yesterday pulled the plug to postpone to December 2021 as in my country we are currently dealing with a second wave outbreak and restrictions have been introduced which would essentially ruin all the nice aspects of the day.

I would try look at the benefits of postponing and try see your decision as the best option that was available to you. By postponing the wedding, you’ll have more time to save money for the wedding, more time to plan the fine details, more time for the excitement to build, and of course less chances of having the wedding affected by COVID. It took me a very long time to come to terms with postponement but now that we have postponed, I am very relieved! In our situation, I realise that our American friends can fly down to Australia to celebrate with us, our family interstate can be part of the wedding, we have more time to save up, we can go on our honeymoon etc, so I am actually glad we made the decision. Don’t fret OP, better late than never as they always say, right?

Sorry you’re struggling with everything. It sucks right now. But it will all work out in the end. Like so many of us, postponing wasn’t our plan... but it’s our reality. I allowed myself the first day to be bummed out. But I couldn’t be mad and sad for long because postponing was truly the best decision for us and also because the pandemic is simply out of my control. However, the thing I can control is my response to all of this craziness. Sure, the wedding might be over a year later now. But, ultimately I’ll still get to marry my love, and the story behind our new date makes it that much more meaningful. Best wishes and hopefully you can soon find comfort in your decision.

I am so sorry, I think as the first post noted look at some of the positive aspects and you made a very valid point - you're planning a wedding and still going through with your marriage. At the end of the day, getting to marry the love of your life and your best friend is really all that matters. Sending you virtual hugs and wishing you nothing but the best.

I understand how you feel as I was in the exact same boat. We’re doing the same...eloping this year and vow renewal this year. We’re just hopeful that by next Spring we’ll have a better handle and be in a better place to be able to have the type of celebration we want to have with our friends and families. In the meantime I am looking forward to our elopement as we are making it special, and we’re making some changes for the vow renewal so that’s exciting. Plus I get to marry my best friend twice. How awesome is that? I’m just trying to be optimistic and look forward to things rather than wallowing in grief at this point.

Being a 2020 bride has sucked for a lot of people! I am sorry you had to postpone twice. We postponed our wedding that was to happen this weekend and it was not at all what we had expected, but we knew we did the right thing. I think it is ok to be sad about it and also look for other positives as you are able.

I have the same timeline. April to August to April and honestly...I am relieved now that it's been moved to next year. No more obsessing and worrying.

Im sorry hun, I think you did your best trying to plan around Covid. Best wishes to you and your FH next month,I hope everything goes as planned for next year for you as well.

I'm so sorry Chanie. I can't imagine how difficult this all must be!

I definitely agree with your decision to move forward with the marriage and just postpone the party. You can celebrate later, but you still tie the knot now!