Guilty Feelings about Money

I feel this way every single day.

Nope. We are paying for the vast majority of our wedding ourselves. Both sets of parents are helping some. I am just thankful for the support that they have provided, because it definitely has eased some of the financial stress for us.

Yes, both my parents are retired and have offered/demanded to pay for the venue. There's a back story, but whatever. This is something they are happy to do and even PROUD to do. Have a great wedding and try your best to stay within budget. There's nothing a parent would want more than to see their kids happy and healthy.

They wouldn't do it if they couldn't or didn't want to.

OH yes. My parents and FH's parents paid for our wedding. I helped out with as much as I could buying little things and hiding it from my mom. When we were at the cake testing and she gave us the quote on the cake, I about had a breakdown. I felt really guilty. FMIL and mom finally told me to chill out and stop worrying about it. So, I did.

I felt like this right up until my mom went crazy with the budget. She kept asking me if I wanted this or that and I would usually respond with maybe. Then I realized that she is kind of living vicariously through my wedding. Her and my dad had a church wedding with a cake and punch reception. My parents have always told me that I could have the one (only one) wedding of my choice within reason. FH and I are paying for things (photographer, STDs, invitations, programs) but mom and dad are paying for the wedding, dress, bar, photobooth (which FH & I were going to pay for until mom got a hold of it), sweets table etc. She keeps adding, it's nothing I don't want but also not stuff I have to have but she's paying and wants to pay for it. My parent's also aren't rich so I'm just keeping my "must haves" as inexpensive as possible.

Phew! I feel better. My FH's parents arent going to be able to help out so I just feel this increasing guilt for my parents giving me so much.

Absolutely feel that way every single day! After a lot of thought I think we have decided to just stop all the planning and have a DW in April with the most important people in our lives.

We will have the things we want but not use all the money we were going to use when we are in the process of buying a house, I'm a gov't employee with a job right now and we need a bigger vehicle. It just makes more sense for us to have DW wedding and use our money for things we need!

We know in our hearts this is the best thing for our family!

Putting down major amounts of money can be stressful to anyone. I know FH wants to give me my dream wedding and we aren't going to be in debt afterwards, but still.. I feel guilty each time I have to go and spend more money. Sad thing is, a major portion of our fees will be paid the day of. Don't even want to think about it!

I feel this way. I was never really given a budget, but i kind of forced my mom to give me a number, she said 10k then later upped it. I fell VERY guilty. We make more than my parents and couldn't afford that much to waste on a few hours. Fis family makes significantly more and offered to split the cost, but my parents wouldn't hear of it.