Guests your fiancé has not met

We very specifically wanted an intimate destination wedding with our very closest, and with that meant both of us knowing every single guest except my cousin’s new boyfriend. Had we had a traditional, local to us wedding, there would have been a fair number of people my fiancé hadn’t met, and we really didn’t want the feel of a local or large typical wedding. It was an easy choice.

Don't know if the fact of only inviting people that met both the bride and groom/both brides/both grooms is common or not but this is what we're doing. Because FH and I have been together for 4.5 years, that means that family members and family friends that have never met him are people I haven't seen in 4.5+ years and vice versa about his family and family friends. And we decided that peole we haven't BOTH seen in 1+ year before we got engaged won't make the cut.
As for the SOs of guests that have met one (or zero) half of the couple , I know we may sound rude but they are "pre-invited", we told our guests whose SOs haven't met both of us that they have to make the introduction before the RSVP deadline, when we get our final guest count.
Nowadays, introducing those who live across the state/country is not that hard since webcams are a thing lol. Just 2-3 mins are enough: we don't want to get to know them, we only want to see their faces so no introductions will be made on the day of . It's extremely important to both of us.

Yes, we know that a guest who has an SO and the said SO are a package deal... but we're not sure why we would invite people we've not BOTH met. NOT EVEN IN A TRILLION YEARS LOL.

We’re more relaxed due to covid I haven’t been able to meet some of his family . But they are all coming I’m excited

We are only inviting people we have both met. How awkward to go to someone’s wedding you’ve never met before lol

All of our guests have met both of us, but that’s really just because we are having a small destination wedding, so only our absolute closest friends are invited. Had we gone the traditional route and had a local wedding, there would definitely be lots of people at least one of us hadn’t met. And actually, there is the possibility one of our guests may bring a date to our wedding. I’ve met him once, but FH has never met him. And it’s no big deal to us. It’s important to us that our guests feel comfortable and have fun!

For us, it wasn’t as important that we had both met everyone because we each had friends that had been life-long that lived across the country and visiting them wasn’t feasible as I already had a toddler when we met. That being said, we did cut a lot of people off our original guest list that H initially felt were obligatory but we’ve never seen them/don’t hear from them, and we would have had to double our already hefty budget if they’d all been invited.

We’re kinda of relaxed about this but it also depends on who it is. For example, if it’s a second cousin that lives close by and we’ve never seen at any family gatherings in 4 years then we said no. But I have some goods friends that live out of state that I have known since I was 4 but there hasn’t been a good time to visit them, but I still talk to them regularly so they are invited.

We were more relaxed about this! There are people in both of our lives that we individually value who may not have technically met our spouses, even after 10 years of dating. For example, I have work friends whom I have grown very close to over the years. We spend just as much time together awake (if not more) as my husband and I do. They have heard all about my now-husband over the years, and he hears stories about them. I cannot imagine not inviting them to my wedding since my husband hasn’t met them in person. It is the same way with some people he invited. I know all about their personalities, their sense of humor, that one man’s wife and father-in-law were not severely injured in a car crash, etc. I did not know how they physically look, but I did not need to in order to know how important they were to my husband.

Our wedding is only fifty people so that means I’ve met most of my fiancé’s side. However I still haven’t even met one of his groomsmen so you can definitely say I’m relaxed about it. 😂

We are military couple and I haven’t lived in my own hometown for over 7 years. He had not met most of my aunts, uncles, etc so of course we are still inviting them!

We have a very small guest list of 50-60 - but there will be a few SOs we have not met. It will be a casual enough vibe for the wedding though so I don't mind. But - it is only a handful of people.

The majority of our guest list we've both met at least once. There are a decent amount of SOs on both sides that neither of us have met and a couple of out of state family and friends that have only met one of us. We see the same people 99% of the time we have social interactions, but both of us have important people in our lives who we couldn't imagine our day without that we haven't seen a ton or at all in the last 6 years. I know some people will cut guests if they haven't seen/talked to them in the last year and that's not a requirement for us.

My only two cousins live out of state and have not had the chance to visit since my fiance and I started dating due to work schedules and COVID. I still want them at my wedding! Same goes for his out of state friends and family.

The majority of our guests are married or have been in long term relationships where we've met their SO. There will only be one, maybe two guests that bring a plus one we have never met.

I think it's actually a little unrealistic to have met every single guest. for instance my husband invited friends from norcal that i never met before but that's because those were friends who lived so far away they hardly reconnected during the time we were dating. i had never met a lot of his coworkers too since there weren't many functions to meet them at.

The only people on my side FH hasn't met are on my dad's side, and that's solely because I'm not super close to my dad's side of the family. We're only inviting my aunts and uncles from my dad's side, not my cousins, so it's really only 6 people, I could honestly do without them being invited at all, but my parents are paying for 90% of our wedding so if they want them invited their invited.

FH's parents are much more sociable than my parents, have way more friends, and his mom puts a lot of importance on her super extended family (FH's second/third/fourth cousins), she wanted to invite people that not only have I never met, but I never heard of. We had to draw a line with her cause the guest list was just getting out of control with all the random people she wanted to add the FH didn't even know himself.

Initially there were some people i was inviting that my FH had not met, because they are all out of state. He knew of them though, and how close i was to them. Sadly the ones he hadn't met aren't able to come, so I think we've each met everyone that is invited. It's custom in his family to invite people from the small village they all come from in Mexico - which made both his cousins' weddings over 500+ people. If that were the case for us, there would be a GRIP of people at my wedding I had never met. thankfully he didn't want that and used Covid as an excuse to keep is "small" (150 ppl for Mexicans is small).

Graciously, our parents left us alone on the guest list and my parents only asked for 2 of their friends to be invited - both of whom i've met, and he's met the only one who RSVPd