Guests with an Unknown Plus One

That’s exactly what I’m doing. I was able to get the info from my mom and other relatives but I still have a few unknowns floating around.

I'm assuming these people aren't just driving them, but staying for the wedding?

Just reach out. Either to these relatives or to their immediate family. Someone will be bound to know who's coming. It's totally okay (in fact, it should be standard) to just give them a call/email/text and slip in a, "hey, while I have you: can you give me the first and last name of the person(s) you're bringing to the wedding? We're putting together our seating chart. Can you spell that? Thank you!"

It's always good to have everyone's name.

I had one of these, not the exact situation but someone with a plus one who just didn't give a name when prompted. The seating chart said "Guest of xxx" and the placecard at the table simply said Guest. I was annoyed at the time, but honestly I forget about it after I made the decision to let go of getting the name. Of course I am not suggesting you are at the point of being annoyed, but simply suggesting that it is ok to go with guest if you need to move on!

Yes, Guest of __ or __& Guest will both work of the person is an unknown variable. In this situation, it’s totally fine. I’d rather have the anonymous guest on my chart than put a name and have it be someone else who ends up driving them!

I had a few of these when I was getting married. I just wrote "Sally Smith and Guest" on the invitations. For the table place cards, we did 1 place card per couple with their table number on it and they just chose their seat. Their place card reflected what was written on their invitation envelopes plus table number (i.e. Sally Smith and Guest, Table 4).

That's similar to what I did. For the few that i didn't know names, I just put John Smith & guest on an escort card (so included on the card of the person I invited, I didn't make them a separate one). But if they need a separate one for meal choices or something then what you put is fine.

I would ask the guest what the name of their plus one is.

Yep that's exactly how I did it

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Okay perfect! Because the guests that are with these plus ones, I barely know and his family is not good about getting back in touch with names. Plus they don't pay attention to spelling, so I do not want to misspell. It'd be great if I could get everyone's name, but it is unrealistic based on the distance and variety of our guests. Thank you for your input!

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I've asked the ones I have contact with, but there are some I have never met and I've asked his family members to get the name for me and they are not inspired to do it in a quick fashion and the two I've asked for they told me "isn't a big deal to have it exact".

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That's great! That was my fear too. Some people just aren't sure exactly who is bringing them or who they are having come with them. We don't have place cards, so it at least makes it easy to put them on the same table.

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Yeaaaaa, I am about to the point of annoyance. Especially since some people have just responded to my FH's mom and she "thinks" this person or that person will bring someone. I've done all I can do now. If you don't use the response card with the pre-paid postage, then that's your own fault. It's torturing my inner control freak, but it's too hard to worry about at this point. Ugh, I'm glad you can relate though!! Thank you

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Yes, they'll be staying for the wedding. I've reached out to those I can and my FH family has helped to get the information, but I am losing patience going back and forth because we haven't gotten all the response cards back. I literally had 2 people at my bridal shower this past Saturday that told FH's mom, but not me and said they aren't going to bother sending the response card back. I just don't get people. We paid for postage on everyone's response, why wouldn't you just stick it in the mail!?!