Guests who RSVP'd yes then didn't show....?

I'm so anxious about this. I understand emergencies but we are worried about some people just flaking because that's how they are. We will accept it and eat the cost since the venue will prepare enough food for all of the guests. I probably will reach out and ask what happened if I don't hear anything from them.

Things happen. We had 2 GM back out days before the wedding, one for a personal emergency and the other had something come up at work that he couldn't get out of. We had 2 no-show guests as well. Our final payments were already in so there was nothing we could do about it. Although it wasn't a big deal because we had a buffet style reception, so there was just extra food. I know it's frustrating, but things come up that people can't predict, like illness or family emergencies.

Thats what I figured. The venue doing something was a shot in the dark, they will have done everything I asked of them, and that's more important. In the case of an emergency, I completely understand! Unfortunately, that wasn't the case with the no-shows I knew about :-/ Obviously I'm including them in my count, but I'm sooo hoping they don't no-show again.

We had a couple cancel on us the week of because of a family emergency. We didn't ask for our money back. We also had a daughter and elderly mother who didn't know if they'd be able to come because of the mother's health so we didn't include them in our final count. The venue said we could add them last minute if they came.

@Emma, that's super helpful information, I'll ask the venue if it's possible to add this one couple last minute.

@Felicia I totally understand feeling salty still! I would! I had a friend who had a guest text her morning of and said "Not feeling a two hour drive today, but happy wedding!" Ugh!

I've been told to expect up to 25% no shows! The WW community already said that's crazy when I posted on it some weeks ago...but I'm still not so sure! I do have friends that are expecting a baby two weeks before our wedding. I assumed they'd "regretfully decline" but they "joyfully accepted" with the condition that baby could ruin their plans and they'd let me know ASAP. I'm torn over whether this is rude or not. I get that they want to do anything in their power to be there (and I appreciate that)....but I also feel like it's probably going to be a game-time decision for them no matter what and I'll likely have the empty spots. I mean, come on! Newborns are exhausting!

ETA - this sounds harsh now that I re-read it. I mean it to say I wouldn't want a new / first time mother and father to have to worry about attending my wedding when there is someone way more important to attend to!

We had 7 no shows. We were just out of the money on the food. Drinks were consumption, so no shows didn't hurt that price at all.

We had three no shows, which I am very annoyed about because we never even got an excuse. One person (my parents' good friend) rsvp'd for two (him and his wife who he is sort of seperated from - it's a weird on again off again thing), but only he showed up. Also annoyed because he ignored the seating chart and sat at my parents table, which forced my two-yr old niece to have to eat while sitting in my sister's lap. I didn't realize this had happened until we were going around to the tables in the middle of dinner.

It happened to my sister on her wedding this past June, prob like 5-10 guests? She was just out the money. I have already had a couple households RSVP yes and just recently tell me "well now we are not sure because ____ reason so we may not get to make it" which is both disappointing to hear, but frustrating because my guest list is not able to be finalized because of it. I just know I will have no shows the day of, and unless its for a serious reason I find it to be incredibly rude.. but this is the world we live in I guess.

I suffer from chronic "what if I throw a party and no one shows up" syndrome, so yes, I do worry about this If I get no-shows, it won't be about the money, it will be about the manners. You can't make it? CALL ME, MOFO.