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Guests who rsvp as ‘maybe’

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Futuremrsn, on August 24, 2020 at 6:38 AM

Hello Ladies! One of my rsvp cards came in and it’s from a friend of my FH. We invited this guy and his fiancé, but on their rsvp they added +1 child. I found this a bit weird, but we decided it’s not a huge deal if they really want to bring their child (even though we only invited children of family to the wedding). Then I receive a message from this guy saying ‘if Covid got worse then him, his fiancé, and stepson would not be making it to the wedding due to an underlying health condition.’ I’m a little confused as to how I should proceed now. They rsvp’d ‘yes’ for 3 people, but could possibly reach out anytime before my wedding (in 40 days) and say they’re not coming. I don’t have a problem with these people other than the situation we've been put in, but I’m worried if they decided not to come then we would have three extra dinner plates and waste money we didn’t have to. How would you approach this situation? Thanks in advance!

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Marcia · on August 25, 2020 at 7:59 PM
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You need to put your foot down on the added +1 or it could offend/upset other guests whose children weren't invited. It's also so incredibly rude and shouldn't be tolerated.

It's also not appropriate to give a "maybe" RSVP, even now. Covid isn't going away. Tell them you need a definitive answer before you give numbers to the catering company, or you will put them down as a "no." As adults, they should be able to plan accordingly.
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