Guests who haven't Rsvp'd by the due date

How long past your due date is it? If it was very recent (like yesterday) then I would wait another couple of days. Usually a lot of people think the RSVP by date is the last day they have to put it in the mail. So I would give it a couple of days to make sure they all get to you before doing anything.

Once you have given it an extra day or two you can begin to call or text these people to reach out. I would not ask your coworkers who you see, or anyone really, about it face to face as that can be awkward and may seem confrontational. Just give a quick call or message saying you didn't receive an RSVP and just wanted to double check with them about if they are attending.

I just asked people I saw frequently if they got their invitations. It was a nice way of reminding them and they would usually tell me if they were coming or not. I think it’s a week after the rsvp due date that you start calling just because some of them could be in the mail.

Okay good to know. My deadline is today on the RSVP card, but my caterer is giving us 3 more days, so I definitely need to know by the 28th.

I would just start calling people to see if they are coming or not

I'd wait a day or two in case they put them in the mail on the due date (I've done this before on accident when I forgot about an invite, whoops!) and then just send a casual text or call and say "I'm just calling to see if you got the invite to our wedding, we haven't heard from you so we wanted to double check if you planned on attending or not."

It doesn't have to be a whole big conversation, you could even drop in there that your vendor numbers are due to push them to make a decision.

A lot of people assume that the "due date" is the last day you can drop them in the mail. I would wait until Friday at least, and then call/text/email those you still haven't heard back from yet.

View Quoted Comment If you need to let your caterer know in 3 days I would start calling people today and tomorrow!

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Okay that's kind of what I thought but didn't want to seem pushy. Thanks!

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Oh man, three days for follow ups is not a lot. Can you ask your caterer if you can extend by a few days since you didn't give yourself a grace period?

Call them. All of them. Avoid the disaster.

View Quoted Comment Yeah normally I’d say to give them a week after he RSVP date before you start calling but I don’t think you have much of a choice given that you have to let your caterer know the headcount. If anything it’ll just be more of a hassle for you to have to call all these people... I don’t think anyone will mind that you called

It is recommended that you give yourself 1-2 weeks, preferably 2 weeks, as a buffer of when your RSVPs are due and when your final numbers are due to the caterer because most people see the RSVP deadline as the date to actually mail the card. So you probably won't get the RSVP until a few days to a week after the deadline. Since you don't have much time, I would text people you don't see and let them know your caterer needs the final number this week so you need to know if they can come. As for your coworkers, I would just ask them in person. I had to do this with a couple of coworkers and it wasn't as awkward as expected. I just explained the situation as noted above.