I'm getting married next July, and am working on gathering addresses for my save the date notices. My father has a rather large family, and my parents are taking the stance that if you invite one cousin, you have to invite them all. SO, I was asking different people for addresses, and as I was doing so, people keep saying, "You have to add *******, who is *****'s girlfriend" or "You have to add these people" (and lists several people they want added to the guest list.
Am I wrong for being a little bit put off by this? My Mom and fiance are looking at this like, "wow, this is going to be a big party." I'm thinking of it as, "this isn't a barbecue, you can't just invite whoever you want." After all, we have to pay for meals for each person...and it was decided that since we weren't having many people (the guest list was originally supposed to be 75 people, it has since exploded to 131), we decided to pay based on what people drank, not the other option, which is a flat fee. My Mom thinks that since a lot of these people are coming from the west coast, they'll decline attendance, but I'm thinking she's wrong since people are adding people.
Has anybody else experience something similar to this? How did you handle it?