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Just Said Yes March 2018

Guests of honor

Shalyce, on December 23, 2017 at 11:33 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 12
We are not able to have bridesmaids or groomsmen due to the amount of sisters I have vs who’d be on the groomsmen side. We still want to have the excitement of a wedding party but would call them guests of honor? Has anyone done this? Suggestions on how to successfully have guests of honor without a typical “wedding party”?

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Latest activity by 2d Bride, on December 25, 2017 at 10:39 AM
  • Alforev
    VIP August 2018
    Alforev ·
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    You don’t need to have even wedding parties. I have never heard of having guests of honor, but I wouldn’t go that route just because it might be offensive if your sisters really wanted to be bridesmaids for you. If you would want your sisters to be bridesmaids you should ask them regardless of the grooms side. If you don’t feel comfortable with that then I just wouldn’t have a wedding party or give titles to anyone because you never know how it will make them feel.
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  • Nicole
    Expert September 2018
    Nicole ·
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    All guests are honored, that's why you invited them to be part of your special day. If you had this title for some people it would make me think I was not honored.

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  • Orchids
    Master March 2018
    Orchids ·
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    Just make the party uneven. FH has more than twice the number of attendants that I do.

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  • Miaaa
    Super January 2018
    Miaaa ·
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    I've seen people give their sisters who weren't in their wedding party corsages. So they're "marked" as party of the family but no one gets offended because hey, they're family. No other special privileges though.

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    Master July 2018
    Cuoghi ·
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    From someone who has been a bridesmaid about 20 times, being in a wedding party is....not that exciting. You can give the other people a role like a reading or usher but not really necessary and I doubt they will care one way or another.
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  • muriel
    Champion June 2018
    muriel ·
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    My sisters didn't ask all of us to be in their wedding party. Neither will I. You can have uneven sides, or just have a MOH and BM. The " guest if honor" thing is a cumbersome solution to a non-problem.

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  • kt90210
    Dedicated October 2017
    kt90210 ·
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    I have 7 sister's and 1 brother... I only asked 1 to be my attendant. I was in some of the others weddings, but not all and it was OK. If you want all your sister's then ask them, if you only want some, then that's OK too. And uneven sides are absolutely OK. The last several weddings I went to the sides were uneven and it was fine. Of all the things you'll stress about planning your wedding, don't let this be one if them (and I mean that sincerely, no snark) Good luck!
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  • Forestwed
    Master May 2018
    Forestwed ·
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    I wouldn’t call them guests of honor. That’s insulting to every other guest
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  • BoudreauToBe
    Master July 2018
    BoudreauToBe ·
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    I agree with giving immediate family members flowers to wear, but giving them a title just makes it seem like they weren’t good enough to be in the wedding party.

    Im curious as to how many people in tota you are thinking?
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  • L
    Expert April 2018
    lindabelcher ·
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    You can gave uneven sides or you can let then do something special like a reading. So, they are a part of the ceremony!
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  • Jill
    Expert August 2018
    Jill ·
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    I have uneven sides. It's no big deal. Just have one guy walk out two girls. Or have two girls walk together. Did you ask all your sisters if they even want to be in your wedding? Maybe a few of them don't and you won't even have to worry about it.
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  • 2d Bride
    Champion October 2009
    2d Bride ·
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    My brother had his four sons in his wedding party. His wife had only her one daughter. Everyone survived. And they honored those closest to them, instead of including people they weren't close to, or excluding ones they were, just in order to make balanced sides.

    If in spite of this, you don't want a wedding party, just don't have one. "Guest of honor" is just a made-up title, and is likely to be more offensive than just giving them honor that accrues with being part of your family, rather than a special title.

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