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December 2019

Guests inviting others

JENNIFER, on November 8, 2019 at 11:58 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 11

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A close friend and guest of our daughters upcoming wedding just texted me and asked if they could invite her sister's husband's sister and her husband. We're all in shock. This isn't a plus one thing. Isn't the general rule that at least either the bride or groom should know all their guests? In this case, none of us do. At $60+ a head plus open bar, I don't wanna pay for strangers at my daughter's wedding. How should I answer my friend's request?

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Latest activity by Jennifer, on November 11, 2019 at 2:45 PM

Champion October 2009
2d Bride · on November 9, 2019 at 12:08 AM
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I'd just say, "I'm sorry, but we're having to limit this to close friends and relatives."
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VIP January 2020
Vicky · on November 9, 2019 at 12:16 AM
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"I'm sorry, no."
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Super November 2020
Ashley · on November 9, 2019 at 12:46 AM
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I would say:
"Thank you for asking beforehand, but because we have a desired guest limit, we are unable to extend invitations to those we do not know. We hope you understand and can still join us."
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Master November 2020
Kristen · on November 9, 2019 at 7:44 AM
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Agree with the ladies above. I think if you stress that you want this to be an intimate affair that makes sense. I would never ask to bring two random to a huge life event lol.
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Legend November 2019
Caytlyn · on November 9, 2019 at 9:42 AM
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“No,” is a complete sentence.
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Master May 2019
Cyndy · on November 9, 2019 at 9:56 AM
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Personally you don’t have to give a long explanation. People are rude and “no” is the answer. I’m shocked as to why people think it’s acceptable to even ask.
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Legend June 2019
Melle · on November 9, 2019 at 11:38 AM
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I'd just say no there's no room. I had the same dumb question from a groomsman who wanted to invite his wife's friend (we did invite his wife) -_- so...
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karen · on November 9, 2019 at 3:51 PM
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I would advise against giving any reason, some people may try to "solve" your problem, by saying, oh Aunt Regina is not coming, so there will be room. Just say, sorry no, but we hope to see you
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Master December 2019
Cher Horowitz · on November 9, 2019 at 9:35 PM
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I agree with PPs. Be firm and let them know this person cannot be accommodated. Don't feel bad! They're the ones being rude
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Heather · on November 11, 2019 at 11:10 AM
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You don’t have to give them an explanation. It is completely rude to even ask. I would just say, “No, I’m sorry. We can’t wait to see you.”
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