FH and I are having trouble deciding if we should invite a certain couple to our wedding.
He was close with a group of guys in grad school, and they all just graduated and moved to different states. One of them has a wife I cannot stand. When I'm around her, I feel like I'm back in middle school navigating the mind games of being left out and ignored. She makes me feel like I am less.
FH knows that I don't like her, and he doesn't care for her either. However, he really wants his friend there. He doesn't feel like he can invite the other guys in his group but not that friend without ruining their friendship. He's also looking forward to having all of his grad school friends together again. He's offered to invite the friend but not the wife as a compromise, but I've told him we can't do that. It's either invite both of them or invite neither. Also, the last time I saw his friend, he made a drunken sexist comment to me, so I don't even want him there.
I know FH wants his friend there, and I want to make him happy, but I also think the couple will take away from the day--not necessarily ruin it, but they obviously won't add to my happiness. I know people say that as a bride, I'll be so busy I won't notice them, but they're very loud, louder when drunk, and always insist on being the center of attention. I also know from previous weddings, she'll insist on an aisle seat, and I just really don't want to walk down the aisle and see someone who makes me feel so unworthy.
Any advice? Similar situations? Thanks.