Guests barely brought a gift to wedding

Be thankful for the 17 gifts that you received.

Did you have a bridal shower with gifts? Many people don't like to bring gifts directly to the wedding because of the hassle. I'm sure you have many cards to go through! I'm sorry you're bummed, I doubt you did anything wrong

View Quoted Comment A lot of people did not show to my bridal shower. I also had guests that did not bring gifts to my bridal shower.

That’s very odd! I do think though that not nearly as many people bring a gift these days—which to me seems rude, I would always bring a gift to a wedding even if just a card or small gift due to budget. We had a local wedding reception (drinks, dinner, dancing) and maybe 1/2 brought a gift so I thought maybe because it was only a reception without a ceremony (even though the reception is the most expensive part)?

That is kind of odd. I had some people at my wedding bring me gifts after so in the following days I was still receiving some so maybe yours is delayed too.

I totally understand you feeling hurt! 😞 I just don’t think as many people give gifts for a wedding anymore, which seems sad to me (exceptions for wedding party who spend a lot to be in the wedding, and if it’s a DW because of travel costs for guests).

I am impressed you had 160 guests! Try to think of how much love you have in your circle, so many people spent the day with you both. 💕

We had a lot of people come to our couples shower without a gift, which I found odd and slightly hurtful because the point of a shower is to bring gifts. And a lot of people brought really random things that we did not register for to the wedding as a gift opposed to something from our reigstry or money. I understand being disappointed but you didn't do anything wrong. They either do not know proper etiquette or could not afford to gift. You invited them to spend the day with you, and while its normal to bring a gift, don't think of it that way. I know it sucks, but it's not the end of the world! They celebrated the day with you, which is why you invited them.

That is odd in my opinion and I would be upset too. Your guests should feel embarrassed. I would never attend a birthday dinner, let alone a wedding, empty handed.

I went to a wedding that had 175 guests recently and she did not have a registry but the gift/card table was empty. Maybe about 10 gifts/4-5 cards. You did nothing wrong!!!!! And she didn't have a bridal shower either

I think it's rude to go to a bridal shower with no gift! That's the entire point of it!
Some people don't think you should bring a gift to the wedding itself but mail it before/after. I think no gift or money at all is weird, I'd at least do a card with a gift card in it.

That’s odd but you didn’t do anything wrong. I think going to a wedding w/o a gift or card is extremely rude. I have always gave gifts to bridal showers & gave $$$ at weddings to pay for (or help pay for) the cost of my food & drinks.

I had a few friends tell me they cant bring a gift (mostly those traveling) I appreciated them telling me they couldn't but I didn't expect them too. I'm hoping well get some money to help us, but we doubt it.

We didn't do an engagement, or bridal party. We have had 3 people send cards.

While bringing a gift to a wedding is generally customary, it is not required. I can understand you feel disappointed but also remember that etiquette experts also generally advise that guests have up to a year to send a wedding gift. You may have some that trickle in later. We had a few gifts arrive within the first 6 months after we got married. Send your thank-yous as soon as possible for the gifts you did receive and enjoy this time with your new spouse!

The weddings I’ve been to, I haven’t seen many gifts brought. Most people bring a card with money. I was always taught that proper etiquette was to include enough money in the card to cover the cost of your plate. I find it very odd tho, if no or even brought cards for you.

That is incredibly rude. If you’re invited to a wedding or bridal shower-you bring a gift! Even if it was just a nice card, you don’t just show up empty-handed.

Yes, this is strange to me. I kind of get the inclination that it might happen to me as well..... we all know, of course, that we aren't inviting people in order for them to give us stuff; we aren't children; yet it's still quite customary to bring something for the couple starting out their life together. Even if you've been living together, marriage is a new start! I honestly don't understand this trend of making weddings into an extravagant entertainment and then being called names for expecting the same as our older cousins and parents got when they got married--which is help starting the new life, typically taking the form of a gift or card with money.

I find that pretty weird! They didn't send gifts to your house or gift cash? I do understand some percentage not gifting anything but 140 seems like a lot.

I had about 4 people out of 104 guest that did not bring a gift. Although I find it odd I am very thankful for all the gifts that we received.

I just had my wedding as well and had a good portion of people not get us anything at all either!!!! I'm hoping more will trickle in the next week or 2 but I doubt it. I'm really bummed as well. I just feel like at least get us a card and do 5 or 10 bucks if money is tight or make me something to show you care about us. People suck 😔

View Quoted Comment I’ve never heard that your gift should cover your cost to attend. But that’s a fabulous rule of thumb! Even if it’s not money, the gift value should be in the ballpark. That’s brilliant!