Guests Assuming They're Getting Plus Ones

I handled it by giving every single person a plus one, because going to a wedding alone sucks (even when you know people).

Spouses/significant others are NOT plus ones.

For everyone else, how do you know if all of your guests are not in a relationship or dating someone. Some people keep that information private for awhile. For some, they may be in a relationship by the time the wedding comes.

I don't think you can pick and choose who gets a plus one.

Either all single adults get a plus one, or none of them do (the bridal party is the exception to this).

People in relationships don't get a "plus one" - their SO should be invited by name.

@CMC their significant other will be invited by name. By "plus one" I just meant inviting their significant other.

Plus ones are only for single guests. SOs are invited by name.

Reach out to your single guests to confirm that they are single before you send out invitations; if they are truly single, you are not obligated to give them plus ones. It's nice but not required. If they press you about it, just explain that due to budget/venue space, you weren't able to give plus ones.

Thank you @MrsMck that's a great plan!

Just a wording thing! Plus ones are for truly single people.

I agree with MrsMcK. If you decide that no single adults get a plus one, make sure it's clear on the RVSP by writing in 1 on the "___ seat(s) have been reserved in your honor".

Plus ones are for truly single guests. Meaning their invite would read "John Doe and Guest".

The SO of those in a relationship should be included on the invite by name ex: "John Doe and Jane Smith"

Many believe there are rules about giving plus ones to single guests such as all of them get them or none of them do. I do not agree with these rules. Like you said many single guests will have other immediate family members there. In those instances I think it's fine to give plus ones only to those to guests who will not know anyone.

However you will need to keep in mind that you should have a buffer in case any of your guests do get into relationships between now and when invitations go out.

Also keep in mind that members of the bridal party should all receive a plus one if they are single.

Well everyone is not getting a plus one at my wedding for the same reasons. if they say they are bringing someone i let them know we are on a strict budget and if they want to bring a extra person it will cost them because we cant afford it.

@KatieD that is super helpful, thank you!

If someone gets into a relationship after sending out invites, how do you handle that?

We wanted to give every single person a plus 1 but then we slices our guest list almost in half. All of the single people invited are family and friends who all know multiple people who will be in attendance. We got a few questions but people understood for budget reason and wanting to keep it small with family and friends.

Definitely agree with KatieD!

I do think he was in the wrong for saying that, though. He probably just doesn't know the etiquette for it or whatever. I'm sure you were counting him as a part of the family as a whole, and not as a person getting a separate invitation. So don't feel bad about that at all, people assuming that (in that situation) is a rare thing.

Thank you Fryed, definitely makes me feel better! Yes he lives at home so I was counting him as part of the family under one invitation. Hopefully he's just a lone wolf in thinking that lol, I just don't want anyone to be offended that they don't get a plus one.

One of our friends started dating someone right after we mailed the invites. I just texted him and told him that his girlfriend was invited as well. They ended up not being able to come, but he was super excited that his new girlfriend was invited and I think it meant a lot to him

If your guest is in a relationship, their significant other should be invited by name. SO is not +1. SO is a guest.

+1s are given to truly single guests. They are frequently given out and are considered courteous, which is why your guests assume they are getting one.