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Mrs. Cohen
Super October 2018

Guestbook signing... after the wedding?

Mrs. Cohen, on October 22, 2018 at 4:04 PM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 29

We got married 1.5 weeks ago and upon returning from our honeymoon this past Saturday, we were SO EXCITED to go through our guestbook, but of the 47 guests that ended up attending, only about 20 actually signed the guestbook. This really bummed me out big time (it probably shouldn't, but it did). I...

We got married 1.5 weeks ago and upon returning from our honeymoon this past Saturday, we were SO EXCITED to go through our guestbook, but of the 47 guests that ended up attending, only about 20 actually signed the guestbook. This really bummed me out big time (it probably shouldn't, but it did). I think a big reason most didn't sign is because our day of coordinator didn't move the guestbook to the appropriate areas after the ceremony, so most guests didn't even see the guestbook Smiley sad


My mom suggested over the next few months since we'll see most of these guests throughout the holidays, to just bring our guestbook along with us and ask those who didn't get a chance to sign it to write something inside. Is that weird? Has anyone else done something like that? I don't want to feel like I'm pressuring people to sign our guestbook and also look weird hauling it around with us to all of the holiday festivities, but on the otherhand, I worked hard laying out our nice guestbook that utilized our engagement photos as well as spent a good chunk of change on it, so I hate to have so many blank pages in it. Thoughts?

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  • Sarah
    Master June 2016
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    I think it’s a little ridiculous to suggest that because someone doesn’t want to sign the guest book they don’t care about the couple. I don’t know anyone who regularly opens the guest book from their wedding to look at signatures. If I’ve written in and signed a heartfelt card and didn’t sign the guest book, your assuming I don’t care about the people getting married? That beyond extra.
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  • Saraí
    April 2019
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    What's not important to you doesn't mean is not important to everyone else. Maybe you could care less about the guestbook but the couple do care. That's why I made sure I'm only inviting people who really appreciate us and would do anything to see us happy that day.

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  • Sarah
    Master June 2016
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    Like I said, I personally don’t know anyone who cared about their guestbook. How would people even know that that matters to the couple? I invited plenty of people who I don’t tell my greatest priorities too.
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  • DC Wife 10.27.18
    Master October 2018
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    This exactly. I rarely sign guest books and for sure if someone made it a point to let it be known that they knew I didn’t sign it but they still want me to it would irk me a little.
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  • DC Wife 10.27.18
    Master October 2018
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    You’re really taking this personally and I’m not sure why. People will disagree with you on the internet and in real life. I don’t expect my guests to prove their participation at my wedding. It’s not that serious. If you want to chase people around to sign your guest book to show how many people care about you like a high school yearbook then cool. Most people aren’t like this and that’s ok too.
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    "When you go to a wedding you agree to be part of it and make them feel special in any type of way." Since when? Speak for yourself. In recent years I and people I know have been asked to do a lot of stuff, that appears out of nowhere. With brides stunned that they cannot count on every person in their part of the universe to any trendy or unique whom they have. An overwhelming sense of entitlement, that often is presumptuous, or even quite arrogant. No, guests do not, by attending, agree to be a part of any plan the bride or couple thought up, to make them feel special in any type of way. The world around the couple need not do anything beyond attend, be witness to a wedding, and be sociable. All else is optional. Guests do not agree to do anything more when they accept an invitation.
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    Judith ·
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    Edit: To do any trendy or unique whim they have.
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  • Saraí
    April 2019
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    Speak for yourself then Smiley smile

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  • Michelle
    Rockstar December 2022
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    Many people refuse to sign the guestbook even when it is handed to them. They don't give a reason why. You just accept whoever wanted to sign and move on.
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