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A lot of 12 year olds eat more than the kids meal provides. If you’re close with the guest you can reach out and clarify but if they want the adult meal I would get it for them.

How much is on the kids meal plate? What's on the adult plate?

Give them a quick call and just say
Hello, I got your RSVP back, and wanted to double check that (childs name) wants the adult Entree not the kids meal?
They'll understand, a lot of 12 year olds have hit puberty and are eating adult sizes portions, and depending on what the dinner is they might like the adult one better.

It’s not a problem if it’s only 1 kid, but if you allow him the adult portion and word spreads, other kids may request adult meals as well, and that could be more pricy than you originally planned. I completely understand what the previous posters have said, but if you’ve invited a lot of kids, you have to draw the line somewhere because if you make the exception for one, you’re going to have to make an exception for all.

Many 12 year olds eat adult portions. I don’t see the problem.

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Thanks for this... i haven't thought about this point. I was going to just offer the adult meal but this is true too. We do have a lot of children coming.

View Quoted Comment Just a thought because I agree with everyone saying 12 year olds are bottomless pits but I can see how it could get out of hand. How old will he be when the wedding happens? If 12, how close to 13? Also, how likely is it that people with other kids know this kid's birthday?

You do nothing but provide what was requested. Kids around that age usually eat a lot. Not saying you plan on doing this but one should not be cheap with this, especially if they chose to invite a lot of kids. You may find that one family may choose kid meals because their child is a picky eater and others may order an adult meal.

View Quoted Comment My FH asked the kid himself which he would want to eat and he chose the kids meal so now I’m not sure which he would prefer. The adult entree is a chicken dish but it has a bone in it so I’m not sure how much kids would really like that either.

View Quoted Comment He would have just turned 12

View Quoted Comment Well the parents of all the other kids actually are friends with this family so they know his age

View Quoted Comment His mom thinks he won’t get full off the kids meal but the kid himself wants the kids meal because it sounds more appealing. On top of the dinner, we’re having cocktail hour, cake, late night station, and planning on adding another course to dinner (salad, soup).

View Quoted Comment Well that's a different story than the original post. There are a lot of kids that age who eat bone-in chicken but also some that don't. You can ask in that case, if you have the time, maybe you might save food and money. Also ensure the child gets what they want but they change their minds quickly too...

I am sympathetic to OP. A lot of times, the childrens' meal is MUCH cheaper, partially because of no alcohol.

I would tell them, we would like to accommodate your kid, but we have too many to that. She can give him a bite before they leave.

If you asked the kid in question then order him the kids meal. If he won't eat bone in chicken then he's old enough to make that determination

Some 12 year olds weigh 80 pounds, are 4 ft tall, and eat 2 ounce portions of everything. Others have started their teen growth spurt already at 11, and by then may be 5-6 ft tall, weigh 100-180 pounds, and eat 5 ounce portions of e ery food on their plate. It is not nice to shortchange someone who is growing and really needs to eat more than the average adult, and give him child size portions. Trust the parents to know his food needs. My 8 and ten yr olds eat and grow and eat and grow, skinny, and need the food. My 14 yr old eats as much as either of my 4 years old twins. It is so variable, trust the parents.