Guest Returned RSVP with A Plus One

Is he dating someone? He probably wants to bring his SO if he has one.

Just call and ask him.

Does he have an SO that you did not enquire about and therefore did not know about prior to the invitations being sent out? In that case then, yes, an invite needs to be extended to that person with an apology.

Are you sure he isn't in a relationship with someone? If he is, she should be invited. If not and this is just a random date, you'll need to call and clarify that the invitation is only for him and his two sons.

Call him and ask him about it.

Im guessing its a SO. Adults, especially adults already with children, should get a plus 1. Id give it to him.

I'm assuming op doesn't even know he's with someone since she didn't give him a guest. I would say just let it go. If you think you'll have the room, it's not worth the effort.

Call him up! If he has an SO they should have been invited. If not, explain that you're only able to accommodate the number of guests that were invited.

Is he in a relationship? Inquiring minds want to know.

I would call and see if it's a SO (or maybe a SO of the sons, if they are adults?). If anything, you would need to know his/her name to put on the escort card. I would lean toward letting him bring the plus-one.

He was not in a relationship when STDs were send, and we were unaware of that status having changed. We had a cut-off date and do not particularly want unknown, non-serious dates attending when we are on a tight budget and are over on guest count.

I am having FH call to inquire, just was unsure how you all would handle it. Seemed like a rude move to me, but appears most do not see it that way... maybe I am being too uptight since our date is growing near

I would have extended a plus one if he was single, even if he was coming with kids!

There's no reason to bring a +1 if you aren't in a relationship, sorry. Call and ask.

Well you are in the wrong. It doesn't matter when he started this relationship, if he is in a relationship, this person needs to be invited.

STDs are usually sent out 6-9 months in advance, you send out invites 6-8 weeks in advance, there is plenty of time for him to be in a relationship, you are in the wrong. Buck up and give him a call and extend the invite.

What do you mean by non-serious dates? If he is currently dating someone he should get to bring that person regardless how long they've been dating.

Well if it were me, first I'd call to find out who the 4th person is.

Once that information is known, if it is his SO, I'd apologize by saying I didn't realize he was in a serious relationship and then invite him or her.

If the guest is truly single and you don't have the room, I would politely tell him that due to venue and budget restrictions, you cannot afford to invite more.

I had a cousin RSVP for 2 when I only sent the invite to her. I texted her and inquired and sure enough she is in a serious relationship so I said of course, she can bring her boyfriend

I mean. Yes. It's rude of him. I totally get the non-serious relationship thing. We have a really tight budget/guest list with a small venue. So something like this would not fly for me. But if they started dating between stds and invites, that leaves like 5-6 months that he could have started seeing someone. I think that's warranting an invite.

I'm guessing he is in a relationship and maybe he thought you didn't know his SO's name? If you have space, I would maybe just let it go and let the SO come. I would definitely call though just for clarification.

It's not nice he just assumed, but maybe it was an honest mistake.

If you'll have the room, just let this one go. im of the admittedly sometimes unpopular opinion that all adults should be extended a plus one if at all possible. going to a wedding alone or wrangling 2 kids by yourself at a wedding can definitely suck.