Guest Request-is it Rude?

I don’t think that’s rude at all. If your guests know it is for a legitimate health concern, I couldn’t imagine anyone being offended by this.

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I guess part of the problem is that I know some people will be offended. Unfortunately, this request will be targeted at them.

As a guest I wouldnt think this is rude but it would stress me out. I d probably start worrying that my body wash or deodorant would be too scented. If there are specific people you know that go overboard on the perfume I d drop a hint or mention it privately to them directly. Best of luck!

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That's good to know. I can specify that those types of products aren't usually a concern. I don't want to single out certain people because I know my guests and that would cause major drama.

I think that's a reasonable request. You could just state that it's a "scent free event", and hygiene products are an exception or something like that. I would probably also start your steroid inhaler a couple weeks before, just in case, if that's something your doctor would endorse.

I don’t think it is rude, but I doubt it will change someone’s behavior. People who use way too much cologne or perfume are unlikely to comply. Nonetheless, do as Jacks suggests and use your inhalers generously before during and after your wedding. Strong scents really bother me, too. I am sorry you have to worry about this

It personally wouldn’t bother me to be asked but I can see how some people would be bothered by that. It’s unfortunately a legit health concern for you so you gotta do what you gotta do. And like jacks suggested maybe talk to your doctor to see if there’s other things he can recommend to help

It’s your wedding, so I don’t think that’s rude to have that request!

Not rude at all. If there are specific people this is aimed at that you know will do this anyway, don’t invite them because they have no respect for your health.

I’m highly allergic to perfumes too. It’s out of respect for the bride. Unfortunately if the person is upset, that’s on them! Hope you have the best wedding EVER!!

Yes, there's a chance some people will mind this or even get offended somehow, but most will understand. I wouldn't mind, because you're not making this request out of fun or just because. It's your health we're talking about so any reasonable adult should understand. You are very nice and considerate to worry about this, but you need to make sure that you feel well on your wedding day. And I hope you will and that it will be the best day ever for you!

I think it’s really hard to control the situation especially since your inviting people who you know will wear our fume. I don’t think it’s rude but I think it’s very unrealistic so why waste your time offending people.

My aunt has a severe allergy to heavy smells so I don't think it's rude at all, especially being the bride. Sometimes people may forget so I would tell your wedding planner/coordinator/Maid of Honor to be aware and check that guests aren't wearing anything that could trigger your asthma

Not at all your health is most important it’s your day

It’s YOUR wedding, not theirs 😊