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Alyssa
Savvy November 2021

Guest Reaction?

Alyssa, on December 1, 2020 at 12:37 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 8
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For those of you who have had a small wedding ceremony already for whatever reason, and are having a bigger wedding when things with COVID get better, how are your guest reacting?


Our situation was we had to get married in June in order for my mom to witness it before she passed (immediate family only). We are still going to have the big originally planned wedding next November (which has been postponed twice now). Given the situation, the guests I have talked to are really understanding. But then someone jokingly asked me “how long will you be married by the time you have the wedding next year?” I don’t think they meant anything by it, but I’m curious if people got any pushback from guests when they found out you have already legally gotten married? Obviously we are still going to do what we want to do because we deserve a happy day 😊

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Latest activity by Daniel, on December 6, 2020 at 11:04 AM
  • Victoria
    Devoted June 2021
    Victoria ·
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    My sister legally got married before her wedding and luckily everyone was okay with it!

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  • M
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    So this was pre covid but one of my coworkers had eloped in May 2019 and then they decided to have a big celebration in october 2019. and i didn't think anything of it! i mean, guests are there to celebrate your journey and happy moment, even if it's "delayed" it's still something nice to share with you.

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  • Michelle
    Rockstar December 2022
    Michelle ·
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    Known a few people who have done this pre-Covid and after and their friends and families were not ok with it. They would have preferred the couple just be honest with the elopement and not have a huge party afterward passed off as the real/legal wedding while knowing that it wasn't since word travels fast.
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  • Becca
    Just Said Yes November 2021
    Becca ·
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    Our original date was also 6/2020 we have also postponed twice as well and now are 11/2021 but we did still have our small wedding on our original date due to not wanting to wait. At this point it’ll be a year and a half and we will already have a baby before we have our real wedding celebration. All our guests have been really understanding and are just excited to celebrate when we are able to. We are both in our 30s and didn’t want to wait on all the other future and moving forward things in life. You sound like you had a very good reason not to wait (not that any reason isn’t) if anyone cares that’s more about them Smiley smile
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  • Y
    Dedicated January 2021
    Yvonne ·
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    We're livestreaming our wedding so guests have been really supportive and thankful that they can join in on the celebration.
    The only complaints/touchy questions I've heard are (my inner thoughts in parentheses)

    - "You're having 30 in person? Isn't that kind of a lot?" (Well then you should be glad you weren't invited in person... -_- )

    - "If it's safer by January are you going to have a bigger wedding?" (Nah girl I don't wanna replan my wedding and it's not safe)

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  • H
    Master July 2019
    Hannah ·
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    I think as long as you aren't keeping the legal marraige a secret, most people will be understanding. My SIL had to reschedule her big covid wedding and did a small backyard wedding with immediate family, with the big 1 planned for next year. Covid through a lot of wrenches into people's plans and everyone has their reasons for going forward with minimonies during covid and celebrating the large wedding later (especially since canceling the large wedding ends up costing a lot of money in lost deposits and such).
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  • Milada
    Super October 2021
    Milada ·
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    Most of our guests don't know yet that we're having a minimony in April but we plan to offer a virtual streaming of it and updating our website to say that we're celebrating our union with a big ceremony in October. Quite a few members of my family were doing things like this pre-Covid so its not a big deal to us really. I wouldn't know what to say to someone that actually CARED that we were already married before our big wedding lol.

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  • Pamela
    Dedicated June 2005
    Pamela ·
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    I wouldn't thinking would be any different than a renewal of your vows ceremony. My husband and I have been married 15 years and had planned to do a renewal ceremony for our anniversary this year, but then covid happened so while I did get my upgraded dream wedding set, we are going to renew our vows with family in 5 years at our 20th now.
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