I am struggling with my guest list. I come from a big family....lots of uncles, aunts and cousins. We both have grandparents who are living. We are planning an out-of-state wedding, at a beach. How can I narrow down who to invite, so it won’t be such a BIG costly wedding? All suggestions are welcomed and greatly appreciated. Thanks!
My FH has a very large family and we decided to keep it to "immediate" family - parents, 3 siblings and their spouses (our grandparents are deceased) and just a couple of more guests we will still have roughly 25 with immediate family only, but it's manageable.
I had the same issue, my family is GINORMOUS. So we decided to only invite family that we have seen and talked to within the last year or two. That cut out a lot of extended family for us and I wouldn't have it any other way!
We chose our guests based on relationships not titles. Im of the belief that titles don't mean anything especially if not lived up to. We want those they have made it a point to be in our lives to share in that special moment. If we haven't seen or spoken to you within a year you're probably not that much of a staple and haven't earned the right to be there.
I agree a hundred percent I have family I have not spoken to and not for a lack of trying I've tried but its been a one way street. Everyone who has made the effort will be there, those that have not will not even notice.
Decide who you can't imagine spending the day without in attendance. Make sure that close friends are able to attend too if you want them there.
The ceremony doesn't cost more than what your officiant charges plus the marriage license. The reception can be done on a budget to accommodate a large group. Use a local restaurant for catering..since they don't charge extra for weddings. Make a list of the most important elements and skip the rest.
We both have very large families so we decided to keep it at those whom we still have constant contact with in the last year. Those who need to know, will know & others will have to just wait until we're able to hold a bigger celebration at a later date.
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I agree. I have a big family as well and I kept it to people that I either see or talk to regularly. Those you don't talk to often may not even come if you did invite them. I also ask your caterer if prices are cheaper for kids. For example, all kids 4 and under eat at no cost with our venue, while kids 5-10 eat 2 for 1 adult price so that cuts back a lot on catering for us!