Guest List

Significant others aren't plus ones. Plus ones are for single guests only. Yes, it is rude to invite people without their significant other

That's a great price---IF you can stay under 80.

I think what you're asking is if your coworker is married, for example, is it rude not to invite his/her spouse? The answer is yes. Anyone who is married, living together, in a relationship is not really considered in need of a "plus one." What you have there is a unit, and units should always be invited together.

A "plus one" is for truly single people. You are not required to give every single guest a plus one. That's up to you. But if you are inviting your boss, and she is married, you need to invite her husband too.

This is why, when trying to keep your guest list down, a lot of couples eliminate groups like coworkers, because they just don't have the room after family and friends are invited.

Yes. Significant other's are not "plus ones" they need to be invited by name on the same invite as the person you know.

Yes I thought about that afterwards. Maybe I should just eliminate coworkers altogether. It just makes me feel so guilty 😩

Plus one is often for single guests. I feel differently that if your coworkers all come together they have someone to hang out with so you don't need to give them a plus one. It's really awkward to invite someone and not their spouse. I'd advise you to just cut out co-workers to save space and money if you're already tight.

This is a tough question. My girlfriend and I were talking about this the other day. How many coworkers are you considering? My friend and mom suggested making your list starting with the people you would absolutely had to be there and you would miss if they weren't there. Then the people that you would miss but know they would be there if they could come. After those lists, the rest becomes a little easier. I was trying to scale back our list from 75 to 50 so I know what a challenge it can be. We settled on 60 as a comfortable number and just decided to send announcements to those people that didn't quite make it on the top 2 lists.

Hope that helps!

I disagree. I’m inviting 2 co-workers who are married. I am not inviting their husbands because I don’t know them. Since my fiancé and I want a smaller intimate reception this is what we’re comfortable with. The co-workers know this and are okay with that. My wedding is also in the midday and they wouldn’t be able to come because of work anyway.

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We had to eliminate our coworkers as well. We are pretty close to a few of them but decided instead to include them in pre wedding celebrations instead.

I was given a plus one when I was dating my fiance. So I agree regardless a plus one should be given.

1st - we have the same wedding month feels so far away but congrats!

2nd - I think if you invite a coworker and they are married you should invite the significant other. I have the same problem we have a 80 person guest list and our bridal party alone everyone is engaged or married. Plus one's are for single's only so might want to be mindful of who you inviting and if they have a spouse. If they are just dating then I wouldn't think about it.

My coworkers are invited without their spouses. They will have each other to mingle with 🤷🏻‍♀️

View Quoted Comment There’s 5 and they’re all married so that would be 10 people total

View Quoted Comment Congratulations! And same here! Our bridal party are all either married or at least living together so that added to our list as well

Plus ones will be the death of me I wouldn't invite someone without their spouse or a plus one if you know they're in a long-term relationship. Between my parents lists of family friends, as of right now my fiance and I haven't been able to include any coworkers to stay under our guest cap for the venue. I've decided to do an A and B guest list. So basically I'm sending the "must invite" A group their invites about three months before the wedding. As soon as we start getting RSVP's for those that can't make it, we'll start sending out the B list invites. We want all of our coworkers to be invited but it's just not in our budget, so we're working it the best we can!

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That's not a bad idea! I'm just worried that people will assume they get to bring their spouse even if the invite didn't say "Mr. Jones & guest" or something like that. Last thing I want is unexpected guests

If your coworkers are married both the coworker and their spouse should be invited by name. People will expect that their spouses are invited. I'm not inviting coworkers because (with spouses) it would add a whopping 16 people to my 65 person wedding. I feel guilty about it, but it's just not feasible.