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Shouldn't this be your FS's job?

That wasn't meant to be rude, FWIW. I just think sometimes bad news should really be delivered direct from child to parent. What comes across as 'rude' or 'controlling' or 'difficult' from an child in law, is much more likely to be accepted by the actual child.

That would be your FH'S responsibility. It's much easier for a child to put their foot down

Is she paying for anything? Because this is easy if she isn't. I agree that this is your FH job.

I agree. Your FH needs to tell his mom that you already have your list completed and there isn’t room for anyone else.

I’ve had this same issue my entire wedding planning process. My FMIL seems to think this is her personal party and not our wedding. I finally told my FW that FMIL needed to be spoken to about to constantly adding unnecessary people to the guest list (ie: neighbors from 15 years ago, family members EX-husbands, people who literally refuse to respond to her text messages). My FW spoke to her. She has still been VERY annoying. But she has realized we aren’t adding people just because she says to.

I agree with PPs that FH needs to be firm with his mom that you simply can't accommodate those extra people!

LOL Let me know when you figure it out.

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OMG! YES! My FMIL wanted to invited my fiance's neighbor from when he was like 8. I told her he wasn't going to invite them because he doesn't talk to them anymore and she said "Well I'm going to invite them." So annoyed!

That you have limited space and only want people there you are close with or know personally. Afterall, no matter how close you are with her, it's YOUR day

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Yes Brittany. I agree with you 100%. Some people think just because you're close, it means you can just manipulate situations. It's so great that Natalia and her FMIL get along just fine, but that doesn't mean FMIL can just invite whoever she wants and ESPECIALLY if she's not paying. Wishing you the best, Natalia.