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It's okay to be disappointed! My wedding was on a Friday with 70 people and it was so fun! Maybe you can use the money you will save to get some extras. Better bar or more food, etc. You're going to have a great day no matter what!

View Quoted Comment We are having an open bar. So with less people I was thinking about having more selections!

65 is still a good amount of people. I know whey you invite a lot and get a lot of declines it can be hard. I feel like you are getting a lot of declines because it is out of town for most people and on a Friday. Also I am not sure where you are or what date you have but September here is a pretty busy month for a lot of families with back to school right after Labor day, which may also be a reason. I know it sucks but just be happy to spend the day with your husband and family and friends.

View Quoted Comment I’m in Kansas City. Which September is a big wedding month. We moved here from Michigan so most of our guest are from there. Our immediate family and good friends will be there. So I’m happy about that.

I don't think 65 people out of 108 is a bad turnout (that's 60% showing up, to an out-of-state wedding). Your wedding can still be a BLAST, don't let the amount of people there prohibit you from enjoying this day and celebrating how amazing the love is between you and FH. Take it all in and make the day 100% what you want it to be.

We had 52 people at our wedding and it was a blast. We got to spend time with everyone and enjoyed every minute of it. I wouldn’t worry about 65 people being small. Our guests said they loved the music and the fact that it was smaller and we could all be together.

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Reading everyone's comments makes me feel a little better. I also think 60% showing up is great. Especially since it is out of town for most. I do feel loved.

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It's some of our closest friends and family that are coming. So I do think it will be a blast!

We invited 165 and ended up with 81, I had envisioned about 120 though. I was pretty bummed at first but then started to see the bright side. All the declines meant we saved money so we were able to do a bunch of extras that I had originally cut out of the budget. It also made the wedding more intimate and meant we had more time with each guest. I'm bummed that couple really good friends couldn't make it, but life happens. The high decline rate really ended up being a blessing.

We had 40 guests and had a blast! In fact, I think we had more fun because we had less people because it gave us time to really visit with everyone in a more meaningful way. We still had 2 bands (a 5-piece dinner band and a 9-piece band for dancing) and lots of other things that our guests were so excited about. Quality is always better than quantity.

Look at it this way: the lower number means you'll have more time to spend with the ones who are able to make it!! Try not to worry, it's going to be a blast no matter how many you have!

I agree with PP. Quality is better than quantity. Our original guest list was about 130, now it right at 180 with invites going out this week. Way too many people in our opinion, but I have a huge family, and it just added up. Thankfully ours too is on a Friday and we are hoping for a lot of declines. More time to spend with your guests.

We invited 116 and are expecting maybe 80 and I am actually happy because the money we will save lol