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I think for the day if they are important to him then he has the right to invite them because it is his day too. Do you feel they will cause a scene? If they play a big role in his life then I would say let it go.

It’s his wedding just as much as it is yours. Unless his loved ones have been physically or mentally abusive to you, he should be able to invite them.

View Quoted Comment That’s the thing, those individuals do not play a big role in his life. They are just simply his friends and they are known to cause scenes, and they are also very inappropriate.

View Quoted Comment It’s not his loved ones I have a problem with, it’s a few of his friends. I have even said something about them coming over to our house because they make me feel very uncomfortable. I don’t want to be that person, but I definitely do not want them causing any type of scene.

I would not want someone that makes me uncomfortable at my wedding. He should respect the fact that they make you uncomfortable.

View Quoted Comment Thank you. I thought I was just being kinda psycho about it, but my wedding is basically going to be a big party. I am so excited and I couldn’t imagine it with anyone else.

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I feel you should calmly discuss the issue with him again and ask him why is it important to invite these people. There is an article about how to choose your guest list and something it said made so much sense to me. The question is would you invite this person to have an intimate dinner with you and your spouse. On a regular evening would you invite this person our for a $100+ meal on your dime? If the answer is no then do not invite them.

My fiance's friends and my friends are definitely invited to the wedding. We love our friends and want them there. I think it's beyond inappropriate to tell him he can't invite some of his friends

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much! That was so helpful, and I’ll be sure to remember that. I want him to enjoy our wedding as well and we are usually very good at compromising.

View Quoted Comment My fiancé can invite anyone he wants, but these particular few I am talking about are real dandies. They only come around when they wed something, they are always acting like fools, and they make me feel uncomfortable. I’m definitely going to approach my fiancé in a different want and get it settled. Thank you for your advice!

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I think that is great but even working together one will sometimes have to give in which can be a pain.