Guest list

You are likely going to have declines anyway. How much over are you?

View Quoted Comment Like 40 over!

If you haven't sent them out yet, I recommend just including the number of people within your budget/within venue guidelines. You don't want to rely on people saying no because if almost everyone says yes then you will have to accommodate them. You could set the 40 extra people aside on a B-list and add on as other people RSVP no if you really want to try and invite some of them.

I hear you! I am about 20 over. But everyone tells me that there will be a lot that can’t make it. I would take Stephanie’s advice and send some later as other people say they can’t make it. Good luck! It will all work out

Roll with it. We were shooting for 125 guests. My MIL so graciously (I love her to death though!) invited wayyyy more family than I though she would. Then people were getting added left and right. We ended up with a list of 160, which is 16 more than would fit at the tables!!! I was very worried.

Lots of if out of towners though. And we got married during college graduation season. We ended up with 126 guests (128 on the list, 2 got sick and couldn’t come). It will be okay 😁 just try and wait it out.

Thanks ladies! I definitely feel more relaxed about it!

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That's a lot. I would be nervous about that. I would prioritize who gets the invitations first and as you get declines, I would then send out more. I know B-list is a no-no here but sometimes, you just gotta do what you gotta do.

I know people are saying you will have some declines, but 40 over is a lot of people, and I can pretty much guarantee you won't have that many declines. You risk blowing your budget if you invite these people, so I would run through your list again and see if you can get that number down to around 20 before you send out your STDs

It's never a good idea to over invite..trust me. BUT that would be a bit awkward not to invite them after you asked for their addresses. I wouldn't feel comfortable with that. It's likely (but not guaranteed) that you will have declines though. We lucked out. We accidentally, yes accidentally (long story), over invited. Our venue capacity is 200, and we invited 245. YIKES! Well, luckily our final guest count is down to 177. Whew...big relief.

View Quoted Comment Totally agree with this. 40 over is way too many.

View Quoted Comment I'm glad this worked out! We were in a similar boat with fluffy guest lists lol.

Ooo thats awkward already having addresses plus not wanting to cut people..i had to cut so many and I hated it! 8th ou want to make sure you accomodate how many are invited as there are rare cases where everyone make it! Especially 40 people over. I'd prioritize..goodluck!