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Just Said Yes August 2020

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Tara, on December 28, 2019 at 4:32 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 8

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So my fiancé and I just got engaged a week ago and we decided want to have a small wedding in a small country chapel in the mountains of East Tennessee. We made three different lists and kept cutting the list down to make it smaller. After our final discussion of going through the list my mom tells me she made a list of her own (110 people on her list!) and that because she is the mother she can invite people that she wants. Some of the people on this list I have never met or even heard her talk about my entire life. What do I do? Is it wrong for me to tell her no?

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Latest activity by Taylor, on December 30, 2019 at 7:56 AM

Legend November 2019
Caytlyn · on December 28, 2019 at 4:34 PM
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It’s your wedding, not your mother’s. Unless she’s paying, she has absolutely no say in anything.
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Master November 2020
Kristen · on December 28, 2019 at 4:43 PM
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I agree with the pp. If she pays for it then let her but if you guys are paying then she ultimately has no say in the guest list.
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Master September 2020
Nicole · on December 28, 2019 at 4:51 PM
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No pay, no say. If she’s not paying for the wedding (or contributing), then she doesn’t get a say in your guest list.
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Ka-Rina · on December 28, 2019 at 4:52 PM
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Agree with the 2 people who already responded. No pay no say anf she can't guilt you into it. She might have one idea for your wedding but it's Ultimately what you and your fiance want and can afford. If she says she will pay, then expect to not have an intimate wedding in the mountains but a grand ol ballroom affair with 100+ people...
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Super September 2020
Naikesha · on December 29, 2019 at 10:53 AM
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110 people she's being ridiculous even if she is paying I wouldn't want 110 of my mothers people. how crazy is that? I can see 15-20 that's even too much it should be their closest friends 3-5 couples come on, Sounds like your mom needs to have a holiday party but not at your wedding.
If you and your fiance want a small intimate wedding you need to rope jer in and tell her that and give her a head count limit.
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Dedicated April 2020
Christine · on December 29, 2019 at 11:39 PM
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A WEDDING HERE IN THE MOUNTAINS THAT MANY PEOPLE IS REALLY GOING TO COST YOU!!! I wanted to use one of the chapels in Gatlinburg but they are so pricey and you cant take your own pictures of most of them !
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Master October 2020
Mandi · on December 30, 2019 at 12:25 AM
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Dang. My mom got 3 people on my 250 person list, and I've known them since birth.
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Taylor · on December 30, 2019 at 7:56 AM
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Uhhhh no. Just no. Even if she is paying, she doesn't have any right to invite THAT MANY people. Maybe a few if she's going to cover the cost of them but 110 is ridiculous.
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