Guest list

Generally I'd say do whatever you want. My only concern is how would the children feel about you not inviting their mother? Are their relationships tarnished? If not, then this may be a bad idea. If they are, then it probably won't be frowned upon.

View Quoted Comment Thank you Jennifer. I would never do this or allow my children to leave my brother off the guest list. It is my brother who thinks it is ok for his son to ask my boys to be groomsmen in his sons wedding but not invite me to the wedding. I was always a good aunt to my brothers children and love them dearly.

View Quoted Comment Hmmm that is strange then. Even if they have a small venue capacity I would think you might be an exception considering your children are in the wedding.

Your children are adults and so their relationship with the bride or groom is separate from the bride or groom’s relationship with you. I am close to several of my cousins but don’t really have a relationship with my aunts and uncles. You say you were always a good aunt but how close have you been since your nephew has been an adult?

View Quoted Comment I have continued to be a good aunt to him. He is only 22 years old. This is a his dad my brothers choice. It is not my choice or my nephews choice. Thank you so much for your input.

View Quoted Comment What do you mean it’s not your nephew’s choice? It’s your nephew’s wedding and he is an adult. Has he told you he wants to invite you but his dad won’t let him?

View Quoted Comment He told my daughter not me

A little weird but they are adults and if they behave as such they should be able to respond simply.

View Quoted Comment Yes, I agree it is very weird and extremely hurtful. My nephew works for his dad ( my brother). This is a very complicated sad situation. It seems from that my children have discovered from talking to their cousin this is a choice their dad made not them. Families should not behave this way especially during a special time.

View Quoted Comment The guest list it seems is my brother guest list It is his son wedding not his wedding. It is just sad and very hurtful. My boys are deciding if they will be apart of the wedding or they will decline attending. My daughter has chosen not to attend the wedding. I would never leave my brother off a guest list and invite his children.