Guest List

I can’t imagine if I had that many people to invite 😅

187 is close-ish to 150🤣🤣
Lol, in all seriousness, it's ok to cut some people thay you haven't spoken to in a great deal of time.
Or you can just invite all 187 and hope that around 150 show up lol. It'll all work out!!

Sit down with fiancé and decide who are your must have invites. Who on your list can you not imagine the day without. Those people get an invitation. Who on your list is invited out of obligation to please someone else or because you were friends 10 years ago and no longer speak? Cut them from the list unless they are significant others of your must haves. Who on your list are you inviting whom you don’t interact with at all in your current social life? Cut them from the list. That should help to narrow it down by focusing only on people currently are part of your lives who are your have must have guests.

Always prepare for 100% attendance because it does happen. Also do not invite more than venue capacity or your budget allow.

View Quoted Comment I need this advice. Thank you

Start with CLOSETS family and friends.

I agree with Michelle! Plus , it’s the maximum of people for the venue & some places charges per head . Be careful of your guest list .

Dude. My fiancé and I created a list. But because he has so much family and I want to invite my friends, it’s making it a bit complicated! We started saying 85 guests. Then we had a discussion of 30-40 guests. Then he’s like, “well these cousins”…and I’m like, “oh these friends…” it’s a bit frustrating lol.

Is 150 people the amount you want to show up to the wedding, or the amount of people you want to invite? You could always make a B list in case more people than expected drop out.

View Quoted Comment Yea my family is huge.

View Quoted Comment I just don’t want more than 150 people at the wedding. If 100 show up that is great. But 151 no.

150 is a large amount. I put down our closest family and friends on a list. We didn’t invite people we have spoken to in a few years regardless if they are first cousins. I removed some people who were acting like idiots during this process. We added a couple of new friends. Our list changed several times.

It is difficult to assemble a guest list. Between him and I we invited 170 people. I have more family than him to invite and he's got more friends than me we're inviting so it evened out. It's tricky when you want to have a set number for budget reasons and it's hard to cut out some people. I hope for the best.

Once I started getting quotes for food my list went from 140 to 110 very quick 😂😂

We had a similar issue, our limit is also 150. We had to be really strict and really narrowed it down to who we talk to most/ who stays in contact with us. We also had to be strict with plus ones! Anybody who has not been in a relationship for a year or would being somebody random isn’t getting a plus one. It’s unfortunate but that’s the only way we could have everybody we would want to be there.

Oh wow you have me beat I only have 15 lol lol. But dont stress just you and your fiancee just write out all of them. Because everyone that you have on your list will not be available then start checking off who you haven't spoken to mor than 4to 5yrs off of you work with them they all won't get that day off. And any cousins that you have seen in years the ones you don't get along with. On both sides dont let the your parents influence you because then it will get bigger lol lol good luck

Give yourself some time to go back to it later. I had a similar problem, and after taking time to seriously think about it, I started to realize some people were not as important to invite as I initially thought.

It also helped me to limit my family to immediate family and their immediate families. So after writing down my parents and siblings (and their spouses and children), I started with my dad, included his parents, his siblings, and their spouses and kids; then I went to my mom and did the same. My list still ended up way larger than my fiance's. Big families can be tough! Most of my close friends are in my wedding party, so I did not need to worry about that. Anyone who is a friend who I would have loved to invite understands that we are trying to keep it smaller, and it is basically just family.

Hope that helps!

I have a really big family (26 cousins and that doesn’t include their plus ones and kids and aunts and uncles). I decided that it was more important to have my immediate family ( still at least 13 people) and added friends that I actually wanted there. Realizing that this isn’t a family reunion, but people that would be genuinely happy to see me and my fiancé celebrating our love helped me cut down the list

I'm in the same boat. What helped was categorizing everyone into A,B, and C lists. A being THEY 100% HAVE TO BE THERE, B being I would really love for them to be there, and C being I would like them to be there. When I did this, A & B lists made the cut and now I just have to choose from the C list.

View Quoted Comment I like how you did your plus ones. How did you word that on invitations?