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Ingrid, on February 22, 2021 at 9:57 AM Posted in Planning 0 19
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My fiance and I are still working on the guests list, we should be sending the invitations out in around two weeks but I need some advice on this. We have a limit of 150 people in the venue, and as of right now we have 147 people that we will invite. We know that not everyone will make it, so should we add some more people on our list? Or just invite those 147 and then invite some extra people whenever we know how many people won't attend? What did you do or what are you doing?

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Latest activity by Michelle, on February 22, 2021 at 9:07 PM
  • Cornell
    Savvy July 2022
    Cornell ·
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    Are you missing out on people who are special to you in the 147. I wouldn't invite people just to get close to the max amount of people the venue can hold.

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  • Lisa
    Rockstar July 2022
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    I agree with this. I wouldn't invite people just to get to the venue max. Put together a list of those who you cannot imagine your day without and who you would genuinely like to invite. If that's less than the venue max, then I would leave it as-is!
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  • Ingrid
    Savvy July 2021
    Ingrid ·
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    We're really not.. everyone that we really want there is part of that 147. But I was thinking on inviting some extra people (in case some other's don't come) just because I know some people want to bring plus ones, and there are some other friends or family that we aren't that close to that expect to be invited.

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    Master July 2019
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    You should never invite more than your venue can accommodate. People tend to be very slow at RSVPing and to invite people last minute is rather rude. I would stick with the number of people that you have already invited.

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  • Cornell
    Savvy July 2022
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    I would keep the 147 and allow people who don't have plus ones to invite them. It sounds like the people you really care about are already invited. I wouldn't invite people just because they think they are expected to be invited. It can become challenging I had to learn this from my FH.

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  • Ingrid
    Savvy July 2021
    Ingrid ·
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    Yes I thought it would be rude of me to do that as well, thank you for replying!

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  • Ingrid
    Savvy July 2021
    Ingrid ·
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    Thank you for replying! everyone else seems to be giving the same advice, I think we will just do that then! Smiley smile

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  • Ingrid
    Savvy July 2021
    Ingrid ·
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    Thank you for replying! I do find it easier and better to just have a "smaller" wedding with just the people that mean a lot to us there. My fiance and I are both learning through all of the wedding planning that whatever we do there will always be someone unhappy, and we just have to do whatever WE both want for our day.

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  • Yasmine
    Rockstar October 2020
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    I would stay at 147 invites. I also would wait to send the invitations out especially if your wedding isn't until July (unless it is a destination wedding)

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  • Michelle
    Devoted April 2021
    Michelle ·
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    Dont invite more then the venue can hold for sure.

    You will be surprised at who will show up or ask about coming even after the RSVP window was expired (this just happened to me) i invited 120 people to my wedding and 110 RSVPd and 4 asked after i closed the RSVPs out so almost everyone invited is showing up

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  • Hannah
    Rockstar July 2019
    Hannah Online ·
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    I agree with everyone else. Just because the venue can accommodate 150 doesn't mean you need 150. Also, you said the venue can hold 150 people. Is the 150 the number of guests or the actual number of people that can be there at 1 time. If it's the latter, then to need to include yourselves and vendors into the number.
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  • Ingrid
    Savvy July 2021
    Ingrid ·
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    It's not a destination wedding, but most of my family is coming from Spain or Brazil so I guess it would be a destination wedding for them.. Our wedding is July 23, I was thinking on sending the invitations out in around two weeks and have the RSVP dead line around May 5th. Do you think that's okay?

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  • Mrs. Spring
    Master April 2021
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    I would just keep the original list as is. I dont think i would have backups of others declined
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  • Yasmine
    Rockstar October 2020
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    With the mail being slow then I don't see a problem with sending them out early, I do think that May 5th is early as a RSVP date for a wedding at the end of July.

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    May 5th is WAY too early for RSVPS, you shoudln't need them before July 1 for sure, but could probably push it to a month prior without being odd. It's also pretty rude to fill in people on a "B list" as you receive no RSVPs. Just invite the original 147.

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  • Ingrid
    Savvy July 2021
    Ingrid ·
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    Thank you! I'll change the RSVP date!

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  • Meghan
    Rockstar October 2019
    Meghan ·
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    I would invite the 147 and that is all. You don't want to invite more than your venue can hold. I also would not send out a second round of invites. Guests will find that rude if they learn they were on the B list.

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    Just Said Yes May 2021
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    We invited well past our minimum count because if we do not reach it we still have to pay regardless. We can always add more guests we just cannot take away from the minimum. We will be reaching out to everyone 2 weeks prior to ensure the final count and make adjustments from there. It’s pretty risky but we have a lot of flexible guests

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  • Michelle
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    Michelle Online ·
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    Always prepare for 100% attendance because it does happen. Do not B list under any circumstances. Guests do find out and get offended rightfully so but will never tell the hosts. Do not invite anyone out of obligation to please others whom you do not want in attendance. Only invite those you cannot imagine the day without and do not add anyone to fill spaces.

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