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India, on August 15, 2019 at 1:20 PM Posted in Wedding Ceremony 0 11

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So we’re having an issue here. We just want the ceremony to be just really close family. (Mom, dad, siblings, aunts and uncles etc). My mom feels that I will miss out on a lot of guests coming because we’re inviting the other guests to the reception only. I’m kind of torn about the situation. The venue’s ceremony room can only hold 90 people. We have about 140-150 on the guest list so everyone can’t come. So we thought it was reasonable to do close family at the ceremony and then everyone else at the reception. Is this a bad thing?

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Latest activity by Jeanie, on August 16, 2019 at 4:09 AM

Legend November 2019
Caytlyn · on August 15, 2019 at 1:24 PM
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It would be appropriate to have a ceremony with immediate family only; parents, siblings, and grandparents. Any more than that I feel is rude.
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MrsD · on August 15, 2019 at 1:36 PM
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I agree. Then it just feels like you are excluding random people.
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VIP September 2019
Lauren · on August 15, 2019 at 1:36 PM
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That sounds reasonable to me. Some people although invited to both ceremony and reception only show up to the reception.
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India · on August 15, 2019 at 1:40 PM
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We just feel like there is no way around it because the ceremony space is so much smaller. It will not hold 150 people. We love the venue and had to go with what’s in our budget.
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India · on August 15, 2019 at 1:43 PM
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We just don’t know a way around it. The ceremony space will not hold 150 people. We love the venue and had to get what was in our budget. Do you have any ideas? It will hold up to 90.
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MrsD · on August 15, 2019 at 1:44 PM
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I would have a ceremony with just immediate family, then the reception with everyone else and tell your mom you are sorry but if she wants to fit more you need to invite everyone so you need more money for a bigger space.
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Sarah · on August 15, 2019 at 1:46 PM
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Either have the ceremony with just parents and siblings (and grandparents if you have them) or cut your entire guest list down to 90.
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Michaela · on August 15, 2019 at 2:33 PM
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Yes we are doing this too! I think it's completely reasonable. You will still get to celebrate with everyone else at the reception anyways! Your mom means well, but stick to what you and FH want
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Kelly · on August 15, 2019 at 3:10 PM
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I think your plan of only family sounds reasonable
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Master December 2019
Cher Horowitz · on August 15, 2019 at 4:36 PM
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I agree, keep your ceremony limited to only immediate family!
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Jeanie · on August 16, 2019 at 4:09 AM
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I agree that if not everyone can go to the ceremony due to size restraints, keep it to immediate family only. You will need to figure out a way to tell people this, otherwise they will be expecting a ceremony at the venue.
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