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Audrey, on September 29, 2019 at 8:48 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 14

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Hey y’all! So my fiancé and I are wanting a small wedding where the guests are out close friends and immediate family. My mom is pressuring me to invite people I haven’t talked to in many years. She said, “well who are the adults supposed to talk to?” And I mean she brings up a good point, but these people haven’t tried to keep up with me or my life in any form that I know of and I don’t think I ever saw them more than three times in my entire life. What do I do/tell her? Thanks!

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Latest activity by Pam, on October 1, 2019 at 1:29 AM

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Cher Horowitz · on September 29, 2019 at 8:50 PM
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Tell her that you're wanting to keep it intimate with only close family and friends, just like you told us! I hope she respects your wishes
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Audrey · on September 29, 2019 at 8:51 PM
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Thank you!
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Legend November 2019
Caytlyn · on September 29, 2019 at 8:51 PM
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I don’t understand. Are your close friends and immediate family children?
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Legend June 2019
Melle · on September 29, 2019 at 8:58 PM
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I agree with PP. You want it close and intimate and if you keep adding people that you don't even talk to anymore that kind of defeats the purpose
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Pirate & 60s Bride · on September 29, 2019 at 9:00 PM
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Just stick to your guns. We had 15 guests at our destination wedding and had a blast. The vibe was a loud dinner party.
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Laura · on September 29, 2019 at 9:07 PM
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I’m confused by this too.
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Expert October 2019
Jess · on September 29, 2019 at 10:26 PM
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It sounds to me like maybe she just means other people her moms age?? but i could be wrong!
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Aleaj · on September 29, 2019 at 11:55 PM
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I wouldn’t invite anyone who i hardly know, unless my FH knew them. My mom invited a few of her friends. But besides tht, i wouldn’t. Just tell her you don’t feel the need to invite them
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Cassandra7 · on September 30, 2019 at 1:03 PM
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If you're paying for the wedding, you say, "We'll think about it." Then do nothing. If she's paying for the wedding, you say, "Okay. Give me the list."
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Audrey · on September 30, 2019 at 1:54 PM
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Awesome advice! Thank you!
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Audrey · on September 30, 2019 at 1:54 PM
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Thank you all so much!
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Catherine · on September 30, 2019 at 2:18 PM
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Tell her you have a budget for a specific amount of people. If she insists on you inviting all these extra guests on her list then I would tell her she can pay for anything over your budget. If she doesn't like that then it is your day after all - ultimately your choice. Best of luck!
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Audrey · on September 30, 2019 at 2:19 PM
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Thank you!
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Pam · on October 1, 2019 at 1:29 AM
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She said, “well who are the adults supposed to talk to?”
This is odd. Why would she even ask this? Are all of your guests children? Don't adults generally talk to people around them? Especially since it sounds like everyone will pretty much know everyone else.
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