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Sheila, on August 9, 2019 at 7:20 AM Posted in Wedding Ceremony 0 8

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It is one week before my wedding and I’m still worried about the fact that I didn’t invite certain people in my life. Our wedding will be very simple: around 15 guests, getting married at a close by restaurant and then have a dinner together there. My fiancé told me: please do not invite anyone from work. Only close family. I invited my best friend only plus my close family. He didn’t even invite any of his friends because he doesn’t feel ok inviting one and then not inviting the other. I respect that. But I have two girls in my job who have been very supportive in all my years at the company ( personally and professionally). I haven’t mentioned anything to them about going. Plus is only one week left! I need advice on how to manage this situation. I kind of feel bad and uncomfortable. What should I say to them? Should I invite them anyways? Final days help! Thanks

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Latest activity by Kat_, on August 9, 2019 at 9:22 PM

Master May 2019
Cyndy · on August 9, 2019 at 7:49 AM
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I would say keep it small like you agreed with your FH. Your friends and coworkers will understand that you wanted a small intimate wedding. It will be fine.
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Master June 2019
Danielle · on August 9, 2019 at 8:27 AM
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What about it is making you feel uncomfortable? Are they asking about being invited? If not, then stop stressing yourself out over it...especially a week before your wedding. An invite at this point would seem pretty last minute and come off as a second thought. So I just wouldn't say anything. If they specifically ask, then you can explain that due to costs and other factors y'all just decided to have a very small intimate wedding.
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Mcskipper · on August 9, 2019 at 8:30 AM
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Eh “have been supportive” doesn’t give off a “practically family” vibe with that wording. These seem like people that would be nice to have for a large wedding, but don’t really belong at an intimate gathering like what you’re describing.

besides that, seems like you guys already agreed to no work people. Additionally, a week before a wedding is VERY late to invite someone new. If I was your coworker and you invited me to your wedding next weekend, I’d think someone just canceled on you and were looking to fill seats— not that you realized you couldn’t have your wedding day without me— I’m either an after thought or a fill-in. Even if that’s not the message you intend, it’s the one it sends.
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Legend June 2019
Melle · on August 9, 2019 at 10:40 AM
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I think keeping it as is is good. You can always do another celebration with your friends and coworkers later
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Florida Marlins · on August 9, 2019 at 10:44 AM
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Do not invite them now, they will feel like afterthoughts. Just keep it as is - they will understand that you kept it small and intimate.
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Master December 2019
Cher Horowitz · on August 9, 2019 at 3:20 PM
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I wouldn't invite them. They will probably be very understanding if you're having a very small wedding!
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Andrea · on August 9, 2019 at 9:12 PM
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I wouldn't invite them, and they should understand that you and your FH wanted a VERY intimate wedding. There's nothing wrong with that at all. If they've been very supportive, they should surely understand
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Kat_ · on August 9, 2019 at 9:22 PM
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I keep adding people and our list is out of control. Lol. My fiancé made me promise her “this is the last one!” After a certain point though it can look like they are an after thought. Talk with your FH and tell him your concerns... maybe you could invite them if your heart is telling you to.
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