Guest list

Just tell them we have limited space and already have our guest list, we cannot add anymore people.

View Quoted Comment Thank you! Hopefully they understand!

View Quoted Comment I mean if you don’t have the space it’s out of your hands, there isn’t much you can do. I hate when families pressure you to invite people and don’t have a good reason other than “they are family”. I’m not inviting anyone from my dads side including my grandmother. They have made zero effort to be in our lives so they do not get to partake in this happy occasion, and it’s more money to spend. Spend money on those closest to you.

Be firm and whoever isn't invited tell them no. You simply don't have the space to invite everyone

You put your foot down and set and maintain boundaries with consequences. You be firm that the guest list is already finalized and you will not be changing it. You and fiancé decide who attends and who doesn’t. Other people have no business asking or bullying you and they can host their own parties or family reunion at another time that is convenient for them.

Who is paying for the wedding? If it's you, then yes by all means you have all the ability to set your boundaries. It gets trickier when other people and their money are involved. Having said that, people should not be bullying you. "That's not up for discussion" is a perfectly valid response.