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NO. NOT ok. Just smh. Tell them no, due to budgetary and space constraints

That's definitely not ok. Also, I've heard of asking for a plus one, but a plus 6?

That is SOOO tacky of them. I’m sorry but I would immediately “shut it down” how I see it this is OUR big day ...I’m NOT here for the Tom foolery with RSVPs. You either show up with the amount of seat /s saved in your honor or you don’t. It’s OURRRRR big day !

Not ok. Six is A LOT of extra guests they want

Six?!?! Umm no.
That’s crazy!

NOT ok at all. If it was 1, or a couple, then MAYBE? Depending on who. But dang! No girl, you're not trippin'...

View Quoted Comment Well let me clarify. It’s 6: 2 cousins, their GFs and 1 couple 2 kids.

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Who was originally invited here? Just one of the cousins? They should be invited with their significant other, but reaching out like this (and adding way more people) is crazy rude.

I had that happ tell them NO sorry

No, it’s absolutely not okay and you’re well within your right to politely say you’re unable to accommodate additional guests, but it isn’t unusual for people to request additional guests. I know I’m dealing with it and so are plenty of people on WW.

That is way too many people. I would say no due to amount of people

Not okay at all! I have run into this TWICE now. My moms half sister that I barely know asked if her 5 (yes I said 5) kids could come. My bridesmaid also asked if the invite was extended to her family. She, however, started the message with "It's completely fine either way. I was just looking for some clarification because my mom has been talking about it." My aunt was a complete nut job and spent a week Facebook messaging me trying to change my mind. While I get errors do happen, people need to accept the answer given and let it go. That's absolutely ridiculous!

You probably had a reason for not inviting them in the first place, its your wedding do you want these people there and can you afford it/ have space for them?

I would absolutely say no. It's different if you invite one person, then find out they have a SO and they ask about that person. But 6??? Are they crazy?!

Absolutely. Not.

Not okay! Remember that "No" is a complete sentence!

View Quoted Comment See this is from my fiancé’s mom side, which is very extensive. She put together the list for her side and they were forgotten. My fiancé is very distant from the planning and didn’t even look at the list and just accepted it. So they were technically missed. But just the fact that this person asked bothers me!!!! This is not your wedding or are you helping plan or pay for it. So why even go there!!!!!!! Ugh I just really need to accept that it happened and stop letting it bother me. I am NOT bridezilla!!!!!!

If you did not know someone you invited had a SO for a while, if would be okay for someone to call and say, I don't know if you realize that we are a couple, yada yada, and then you are expected to say, I had not heard! Let's fix that, I will send an additional invitation, give me the name and address. But people you maybe woulda invited if you thought about it, or any chain of others friends or relatives, is rude. And if it is something legitimate, it should be asked by phone or email, and settled. Not ask, and ask again. Rude and clueless.

To me, who is very budget conscious, it is not okay. For us, we are very much capping the guest count to what we could afford. Any one else requesting to come can't because we can't afford to feed them or have them present. On our RSVPs, we said we are reserving x amount of seats for you guys so, it should be very clear that x amount of people could come. Less is fine but no more. I've already shut some people down requesting to bring an extra 8 people. I said no straight up.