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Marissa
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Guest list woes

Marissa, on August 18, 2019 at 12:07 AM Posted in Planning 1 9

I'm trying REALLY HARD to keep the guest list at 100 or less but we both have a lot of family and friends. Please let me know your strategies for cutting people.


P.S., I know not everyone will show up but I'd feel more comfortable planning for the amount of people I can afford.

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Latest activity by Cristina, on August 18, 2019 at 1:31 PM
  • Laura
    Master October 2019
    Laura ·
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    We started by cutting people in other states, because we knew it would be harder for them to get here. Only one of his cousins from out of states is coming, she's going to be in state for another reason that weekend. His family is pretty understanding about it. Next we cut family who we aren't really that close to. We are keeping it as close to 75 as possible. We are dealing with the ones who are trying to invite themselves though

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  • M
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    Think about people you talk to now. They usually recommend cutting people who you haven't spoken to or seen in 1-2 years or so to keep it current
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  • Samantha
    VIP October 2020
    Samantha ·
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    Make an A list and a B list. A list is immediate family and best friends. For the B list: First we both cut coworkers. Then friends first we cut people we hadn’t talked to in a year. Then cut anyone who hadn’t met us both because they didn’t know us as a couple. For family: cut cousins entirely, but keep aunts/uncles, and grandparents based on our relationship with them. Cut all extended family. Parent’s friends: cut, unless they followed the one year rule and we had a very intimate relationship with them that mimics family.
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  • Jennifer
    Super September 2020
    Jennifer ·
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    We did three major things that helped us: cut everything off at 1st cousins, must have met the person, and only gave VIPs a "guest". Anyone married or living together is invited with their partner. The guest thing is like a plus one, but we will require names by the time invitations go out and we must have met the person. The wedding is too intimate to have any strangers lingering around. So, we still will retain some control over the "guests". We have too many other B list folks we want to invite to be dealing with randoms. Plus, everyone knows someone coming so there's no crap about being alone. Basically neither myself nor my FH will be having any first introductions at our damn wedding 😂.
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  • Future Mrs. Petro
    Devoted November 2018
    Future Mrs. Petro ·
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    We stopped at first cousins. So we invited our immediate family, aunt's/uncle's and then first cousins. We also invited a handful of close friends.
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  • Katie
    VIP November 2019
    Katie ·
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    I didn’t invite anyone I hadn’t spoken to in a hear. My family is massive but we don’t communicate often
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  • Katie
    VIP November 2019
    Katie ·
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    That was supposed to say year. Silly autocorrect
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  • Courtney
    Master December 2019
    Courtney ·
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    We started with kids outside of FG and RB- that saved us over 30 on our headcount alone! We also only allowed plus ones to our single wedding party members (2), and not for those on the guest list (7). No ring, no bring was our baseline for guests. Two of FHs friends are the perpetually single type and will know lots of other people at the wedding. We also have cousins who are in relationships; whom we've never met their SOs. That may be considered rude by some, but I've never met you in the last 6 years, then why start now?

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  • Cristina
    Devoted December 2021
    Cristina ·
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    I can totally relate. Our first draft of the guest list is around 101(including myself, FH and our kids for cost purposes). We are budgeting for 70(less would be ideal). While I know at least 25 will probably not show, it is very stressful. 95% of our guest list is out of state.
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