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Dedicated February 2018

Guest list Rsvps way less than expected

Michelle, on February 1, 2018 at 9:37 AM Posted in Wedding Reception 0 19
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My fiancé and I invited almost 200 guests to our wedding but now final day we have about 132 way under what expected I invited a lot less people than him because I was worried more people would RSVP. I am specifically regretting not inviting about five of my friends that I made this year climbing the worlds tallest freestanding mountain. Would it be rude to invite them last minute? I asked my fiance at the time I got back from my trip and we agreed against it to keep guest count blow 150. We have room for them at the tables now and the only reason I didn’t invite them before was to save money which apparently was only my concern because my fiancé now says that I could have invited anyone I wanted but at the time I was really trying hard to keep the guest count down to save money since we pay per person.

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Latest activity by Michelle, on February 1, 2018 at 4:12 PM
  • Sarah
    Master June 2016
    Sarah ·
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    Yes it’s rude to invite people this close to the wedding.
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  • Jennifer
    Super August 2019
    Jennifer ·
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    If it's before your RSVP Date you may be able to get away with it otherwise if it's past you can't send an invite with deadline date that passed-- it would make them feel like they were on the "B" list.


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  • FutureLadyH
    Devoted May 2018
    FutureLadyH ·
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    If the invite doesn't include an RSVP date (separate RSVP card), I'd send it. And if your website is the used for RSVPs change the date. Dont make it obvious they werent invited.

    My fiance and I received an invite to a wedding the day before (Friday wedding btw) via text message. To be honest, we would have gone, but we were leaving for our vacation that weekend and already had plans in place.
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  • Happy Hedgie
    VIP September 2018
    Happy Hedgie ·
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    Too late, unfortunately, it is rude to B list people. There is a greater chance you will offend people and damage the relationships by B listing them instead of just not inviting them.

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  • Mcskipper
    Master July 2018
    Mcskipper ·
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    If your wedding is really in 10 days this is past the point of “B-listing” ...
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  • Mcskipper
    Master July 2018
    Mcskipper ·
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    ...but also, what’s the worlds tallest freestanding mountain ?
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  • BlueHenBride
    Master March 2017
    BlueHenBride ·
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    With ten days until your wedding, it's way too late to invite anyone else.

    If these are friends you made climbing a mountain that isn't even in the US, do these people you want to invite at the last minute even live in the US? Do they live in your state? Ten days notice for a wedding where it seems people might have to travel would be downright inconsiderate and would look gift grabby because there's no chance they would be able to drop everything, book a last minute flight, and be at your wedding.
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  • M
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    Michelle ·
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    They live in california. I didnt invite them before because it was after the rsvp date but invites were lost in the mail and my fiance wanted to wait for rsvps. I hear that its rude. I am sad my fiance has so many more friends and family coming. He invited 100 i invited 79.
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    Michelle ·
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    Allot of my friends i just didnt invite because i wanted to have less than 150 guests. Now i am sad and have regrets
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  • M
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    Michelle ·
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    I actually vetoed the b list idea as rude before but now that we are down to the wire. I regret not inviting them in the first place Smiley sad
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  • M
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    Michelle ·
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    Also my fiancé‘s brother just dropped out his groomsmen so now my best friend gets to be a groomsman pretty exciting but yesterday was the cut off to be guaranteed a Tuxedo! People! Make a plan. Stick to plan lol
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  • Sarah
    Master June 2016
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    You shouldn’t be replacing groomsmen either.
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  • Yoomie
    VIP October 2018
    Yoomie ·
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    Have you already committed 200 to your caterer? If not, you're not losing out financially.
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    Michelle ·
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    My fiance’s brother is too sick to be a groomsman.
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  • Sarah
    Master June 2016
    Sarah ·
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    So then you just have one less groomsman. Sides don’t need to be even.
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    Michelle ·
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    I wanted my bff in the wedding anyway he just got bumped up from usher to groomsman! Yay!
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    Michelle ·
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    Alright we decided to not invite anyone else. Thank you for the helpful comments. Wish there was a close discussion option. :/
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    Michelle ·
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