Guest List rsvp Issue

I don't understand. Do you not have enough seats for the number of people you're inviting? Why would you put "seats are limited" on the invitations? Seats are limited at every wedding.

What does 'seats are limited' even mean? As a guest I would assume you don't have enough seats for everyone who you invited, so I would probably RSVP no.

If you think randoms will show up or people will try to bring extra make sure each invitation states clearly who is invited AND for the rsvp portion put _ of 2 will attend. If they write in 3 of 2, then you know you need to make a call. In short, people will pull all sorts of crap, and its on you to correct them.

Hey Caitlin,
We initially had a number of 120 people, family included. However, after thinking about it would be more than that if they're bring a plus 1.

View Quoted Comment I was thinking that they would do something like that. That's what we're trying to avoid.

Maybe add RSVP by March 1,2019. If the person does not reserve by that date don’t count them as a guest then provide the final numbers to venue by May 2019 a couple weeks before your wedding. Limited seats I don’t like how that sounds.

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Hi Tracey,

I like your idea and makes sense; that was my initial idea. I'm afraid someone that didn't RSVP would make their unannounced entrance at my wedding, which will completely suck.

I wouldn’t say seats are limited because it makes it seem like it’s a race to get a seat over another person. Invite however many people you can afford and on the invitation says “x of x amount of seats have been reserved in your honor”

View Quoted Comment Hi Christie,

That sounds like a good idea too. I'm afraid about the guest that didn't RSVP would think to just to show up to the wedding.

View Quoted Comment If guests don’t RSVP by the date you put on the invitation, you need to follow up with them to find out if they’re attending or not. That way you don’t have surprise guests.

View Quoted Comment I would recommend reaching out to those that don’t rsvp to get an answer. If they don’t answer, they absolutely should not have a seat and should be turned away and I would make that crystal clear to them. Our venue will charge 150% of our contract cost per person if they show up and we’re not part of the final head count and I refuse to pay that for something they should have rsvp’d to

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Are you inviting them with a plus one? Make it clear who is invited and add "_ of 2" on your RSVP cards. If they invite an additional person, kindly but firmly let them know that you can't accommodate extra guests.

Some people will not RSVP, or they will say they are not coming and show up, whereas other will say they are coming and not show up. The caterers usually prepare for approximately 10% extra so if you have a 100 guests they have food for 110.....

People shouldn't arbitrarily be bringing plus ones. You need to address the invitations so that it is clear who you are inviting.

Indicate the number of seats you are reserving for them on the rsvp card. If someone changes the number you contact them "I'm sorry. There must have been a misunderstanding. The invitation was for __ and __. We are unable to accommodate extra guests. If this means you will be unable to attend, we will miss you at the wedding."

Follow up with those who don't respond.

I wouldn't put "seats are limited", it sounds like you don't want guests to come. I'd just wait until all the RSVPs are turned in.