Guest list regrets...anyone else?

That definitely sucks, but now the best you can do is hope she declines your invite!

If she hasn't been responsive, maybe she will decline. For me, the worst was when we would get an RSVP back from H's side, and he wouldn't know who they were! Which immediately put me into WTF mode. Turns out he just didn't recognize their formal names, i.e. Jane Doe was always just Aunt Janie to him. *sigh*

That's a tough one...Maybe talk to her about it? Orrrr keep your fingers crossed she RSVPs no.

Yeah that's what I'm kind of hoping...either that or she'll reach out and make an effort! She's also invited to the shower and Bach party (I gave my lists to my sister a few months ago) so she'd have to decline all of them.

Maybe she will decline the invitation and you won't have to even worry about it!

Well, TBH I'd rather try to salvage the friendship. But I try...and no response. You're right, she may just decline and that'll be my answer.

One of FH'S groomsmen always says that weddings are like a send-off party...guess he's kind of right lol

Yikes.. that's why I only invited family and my closest and best friends; people I know are going to be in my life for a long time, if not forever.

@milinovember - I did too, or at least I thought! We met when we both were pregnant 8 years ago, she's come to all our birthday parties and BBq's, we've done tons of playdates, gone out for girls' night...I'm actually really bummed :-( A big part of regretting the invite is that maybe I thought we were closer than SHE did, and now I feel kind of silly...

I have a friend I invited only because she invited me to hers. We were never super close but I thought I would return the invitation. Hoping she declines.

@Miss S I am glad I'm not the only one in that boat lol. My FH, love him to death, told me when he gets addresses from his family he will have to say "Hello, I am so-and-so's son, and I am getting married etc..." I was like let me get this straight, we're inviting people who don't know who you are? To their family, they all always talk through the mothers, so aunt and uncle won't automatically know it's him until he specifies who his mother is lol. It has been weird for me as I know all of my family personally and they all know who I am automatically

It's hard to say what'll happen in the end, but if you're hoping to salvage the friendship, then I don't think you should regret inviting her. I had a friend who while she was wedding planning behaved similarly to your friend, and after her wedding we hashed things out and things went back to normal. Obviously your situation is kind of the opposite, but maybe you two will be able to hash things out.

@Rae I hope so!

Girl I'm like in the same boat, but deciding about a BM. We were super close for years, I even ordered her the BM proposal. But looking back, she some how had a falling out with me (like cropping me out of group pics) about 3 years ago and now that I'm engaged, started making a HUGE effort in everything. I think I will just invite her as a guest. Hopefully your situation ends peacefully, however the outcome is.

@Kels, I think I would invite her as a guest too!

That sucks but you still have to invite her

*raises hand* almost the exact same situation. and they haven't rsvp'd yet so I'm going to have to contact them to figure out if they're actually attending... I'm not looking forward to it.

Ugh that's tough

Reason **** to not send save the dates.

that being said, not everyone is as hands on with their friendships.