Guest list of 250, only 50 guests allowed in New York

Your list of 250 did they receive a save-the-date or an invitation prior?

View Quoted Comment They received save the dates for the original date, and a change the date for the new date.

Etiquette would say it’s tacky, but we’re in a pandemic and nothing about this is normal. We’ve started getting RSVPs and are thinking about inviting a few more people when we get no’s too. First off, these people were only cut because we’re not allowed more than 50 people, second we have a catering minimum that we won’t meet even with 50 people and we have to pay regardless. We did reach out to people and let them know that we are really sad we can’t have them at the wedding due to restrictions, but our guest list was only like 56 so it wasn’t a huge number to cut or call. Good luck!

View Quoted Comment I agree, it feels so tacky!! We also have a minimum that we definitely won't meet with 50 people. We're fully paid for our original guest list, so I'd like to have as close to 50 as possible. Thanks so much!

I sent 50 people a Facebook message in a group chat and I had all RSVPs and what people wanted to eat within 30 minutes. Super easy and free!

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I mean honestly that is out of your control and I think you should have your day so if things do not get better then yeah let the others know that due to restrictions b/c of COVID-19 we had to cut down our guest. Maybe offer a virtual live stream of the wedding for guests to see even if they cannot attend? I would say do not un-invite people then invite them as others cancel because they can feel like a back up plan. I think the 50 you both definitely want there let them know via email or however they are definitely invited and maybe even reach out to them and ask them not to say anything to others that may not be able to come if the restrictions do not open up. What do you think?

Honestly, I would not do that. I think you select the people you're inviting and send them invitations. Those who are not going to be invited, consider maybe setting up a zoom or private live stream for them to see the ceremony, that way you're also sending them something telling them how much you wished they were there, but because of the restrictions, you're complying with the limitations being set and are offering them a way to still share in your day.

It's difficult no matter what, but I don't think sending invitations in waves will go the way you want it to, and may just cause additional hurt feelings in an already stressful situation.

Good luck, hun ::hugs::

Im literally in the same situation! im in mid hudson region my venue said once we enter phase 4 the local government should be giving guidance on events. we originally had 100 but now are planning on 50 unless the number goes up. i plan to send invitations august 1 and hopefully before then we will know if the number will go up. otherwise ill stick with 50

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This is exactly what we've decided to do. We are extending invites to our immediate family & wedding party. Everyone else we've had to cut we are sending an invitation virtually. The only thing is figuring out how to word the invitations and if it should be an insert card. Then I have to figure out which streaming option to use. I definitely want something that just shows our ceremony & limits background noise or anything that is distracting to other guests.